I want my girlfriend back!!!!!?

Question

were 18 and we've been together for about a year and a half. we have a 6 month old baby boy together and the 2 of them mean the world to me but, we fight all the time about stupid little things(usually her mother). i went out with my friends on a saturday night and she broke up with me on sundat cuz she didnt want to fight with me any more, and she said i need to be more resopnsible. a day or two later she was already back with her exboyfriend. i waited a few days and then beat him up 1 night in front of her house. ive been trying to talk to her and work everything out but she tells me that she dosnt want to work things out and "were never going to be back together, it'll never work out between us." im so tore up, i cant eat, cant sleep, cant even drink water! i need help sooo bad. im so lost without her and i just want everything to go back to the way it was without the fighting. please someone give me some advice or anything will help at the moment.

Answer 1

What you need to do is get yourself together. You can't get back together with her until you've become a person that she wants to be with. You said that you both argue about her mother. Maybe you can start by trying to make the relationship with her mother better. Work out any issues you may have. She may respect and care for you more when she sees you making an effort to make things good between you and her mother.

I'm sorry to say, but sometimes people aren't good together. You may love each other very much, but problems still have room to exist. You said that you guys have a lot of stupid little fights - maybe that's her way of trying to tell you that she doesn't think things will work out.

You never know what's going to happen in the future. You two may end up together, or you may not. Don't stress yourself out worrying about that now. Take this time to work on things to make you a better person. By doing that, it may prove to her that you are an awesome guy that she wants to spend her life with. She may never realize that, but at least you will be a better person for the next girl you meet. I know it's hard to get through this right now, but I promise it gets easier. Just keep yourself busy with doing things for you.

Good luck!

Answer 2

The first mature, responsible thing to do, is consider what is best for your 6 month old son. You and your ex, both sound irresponsible and juvenile. Unfortunately, the one who will suffer the consequences the most, is the baby, and he is the innocent one in this situation. You stated that you and your girlfriend were together for about a year and a half. If you do the math; 9 months pregnant, and the baby is 6 months old?, not too much time to have had a REAL relationship, just between you and your ex. You have a problem with anger, Did you really think beating up your girlfriends boyfriend, and getting drunk is actually a SOLUTION to an already troubled relationship? I doubt that you will ever get back with your ex, however, you could do something positive for YOURSELF. Seek help for anger management, and the use of alcohol. If you have a job or are in school, concentrate on bettering your education, and career. The best thing you can do is help yourself in becoming a productive responsible man. Maybe you can become an asset in your sons life someday, instead of a liability. As for your girlfriend, running to another man, is just another mistake. I hope she takes care of the baby, or,SOCIAL SERVICES WILL DO IT FOR HER!!! What a shame, that so many children, are paying the price for the irresponsible choices of their parents.

Answer 3

okay looks like youre in quite the predicament.
it probably wasnt a good idea for you to beat up her current boyfriend despite your feelings - to her that is a sign of not being a responsible, mature, young man.
you have a son, you should know that theres a certain responsibility that goes along with it - im not going to give you that talk but, what i will say is this: your exgirlfriend is a mother. she wants somebody who she not only gets along well with but who she feels is good with her child - dont look at the current boyfriend as a threat that your child will see him as a new father > you're the dad - nothing can change that. and even though you are the father she may not feel that you are up to par with her expectations on how you should behave - youre a daddy now - buck up!
start eating, drinking and sleeping again. it will help you think straight. exercise or do boxing or jog or something to get that extra anger out so you arent beating up the boyfriend again.
once again, try to talk to her calmly - dont get angry because she doesnt understand what you want. explain everything to her: your feelings, how much you love your child and her, how you want to take on this responsibility, etc. maybe if you're calmer about it she'll be more inclined to listen.
if she still is being stubborn about getting back together at least make sure you're able to see your child - you dont want to loose that bond or have the kid hate you later [dont hate-talk to mother in front of the kid either and you should tell her not to do that too because it really does affect the child - take it from someone who knows]
good luck

Answer 4

Everything you said tell her that. Beating up her new bf, did not help your sistuation. That just proved to her even more that you need to grow up. She has a lot of stress going on with the baby and trying to work out things in her life. You need to be considerate to that. I am not saying that you need to quit going out all together, but not all weekend long. How many times does she go out. Some one has to be there with the baby. Prove to her that you want to be with her and she means everything to you. And you are willing to take on the responsibilities of being her man and a parent to your little boy. You are no longer just 18 y/o. You are now an adult. Your main focus should be on your family. The fighting about her mother, you should just talk to her and tell her that yall need to have your personal (relationship wise) time. Her mother can't run your relationship. I hope everything works for you.

Answer 5

Leave her alone man.
You two are not fitted for each other because you always fight.
You probably don't love her but only want her for sex sake.
You or both of you are a little too premature to stay in a relationship. Imagine you fight all the time about stupid little things.
You are too immature. You don't know the end of the line. You beat an innocent person who just happened to be in a relationship with somebody who left you already. What are you man? Gangster? You can't force yourself to him my man. You'll just get yourself into a lot of trouble.
Grow up! Be a man! Change your attitude. Be responsible. Be matured or else all the other women who'll get into a relationship with will leave you just the same.
If you think you can't help yourself, turn to God. Pray!, Surrender yourself to Jesus and ask him to forgive you for all your sins, ask him to reign in your life and ask him to lead you. It will make a big difference in your life.

Answer 6

Ok, I need you to breathe right now. Deep breaths, slowly. Once you are a little calmed down, here is my advice.

It sounds like your relationship was pretty intense, especially since you both have to care for a child. I don't doubt that puts a lot of pressure on both of you, and you relationship, and can add a lot of tension, because I doubt either of you were mentally quite ready for that kind of responsibility. However, it's great to hear that you love your child, and don't resent him. Also, beating her boyfriend up was definitely not the way to go, ok? It just adds to her anger toward YOU. You need to calm down, and RATIONALLY talk to her; tell you how you feel. Tell her why, if you guys got back together, the relationship would be better. If you want things to work, you're going to have to compromise, even if you're right. If her mom wants something, maybe just go along with it. Remember the little things, and give in occasionally. That should minimize fighting. Remember, call her up, or go talk to her, and tell here how much you love her, and your baby, and APOLOGIZE for beating up her boyfriend. She probably went back to him, because she was as torn up as you are, and needed a shoulder to lean on, ok? But you can't blame him. When and if you do go back to her, you'll HAVE to control your temper, because if you yell at her, things will only get worse. Remember COMPROMISE. Tell her how you've been living, and tell her you can't live without her.

And please, eat something and sleep. It's going to be ok, I promise hon.

Answer 7

beating up her ex in front of her house is not the way to go.
You have a child together so get a grip and be there for your child. Be a good dad and show your ex your not the thug she thinks you are. You never know things could improve over time and you can build a better relationship together.
Fighting is not good for your child. the ex is a rebound thing.
So start looking after yourself and take responsibility for your child. Thats the best way of impressing her.

Answer 8

Hey listen the woman say she dont want you back , and that you and her will never work anything out, what is that telling you she has made up her mind baby or no baby she has made her mind up. Now you take your medicine and move on another girl is out there waiting for you perhaps her mother will never comes in the picture unless she is ask to. So get joint custody of your child and move on it will perhaps work out for your own good, and learn that when a woman say they dont care about you or want you anymore it could be a blessing in disguise, dont feel rejected there is no time for that life is very short.

Answer 9

DUDE IM 18 TOO!!!!

and i have the EXACT STORYY

and we always fight about her mom and my dad too

me and my gf fIGHT EVERYDAY!!!

and i NEVER DO ANYTHING TO START IT

ill say i love you or seomthing and she flips out on me and says why am i with you and all that crap

and last night we broke up and then when i was leaving (and crying) she said she loved me and that she was sorry for being such a bad girlfriend

i didnt knwo what was going on!!!

all i gotta say is that you gotta stick with her... and when she tells you to leave DONT!!!! show her you are committed to her NO MATTER WHAT

but yeah i knwo how you feel the past two months i have been goign through hell but i love her...

good luck dude seriously

Answer 10

well since u tried to talk to her and she isnt willing to give it another try, send her flowers n then show up to her house a lil bit after they have arrived, shed b soo happy n she wont say no at the moment. that the first step (getting together to talk) after u open that door talk to her and explain how ur willing to try n work things out with her and how ur not gonna hurt her n e more. let her know that she means the world to u along with the baby. take her n the baby out to like dinner or something n ask her for another chance. once u get that chance dont mess it up n never let her go. and try avoiding conversations about her mom. or just agree what she says about her mom. well good luck n hope everything works out well :)
imma pray so it does!

good luck!!!

~*precious*~
(vanessa in so. cali.)