He bought a 2 litre carton of ice cream and apple pie for dinner one night and i made the rest of the dinner at home. He came to my place with his son. Then the next day complained that my kids finished off the carton of ice cream. And then asked if they had eaten the rest of the pie.There was a total of 5 of us for dinner, so there wasn't much ice cream left anyway. He put $20. worth of gas in my car then the next day drove his 18 year old sons friend home and used it all, then told me I had to put more gas in the car, because when he pulled in the driveway the gas light came on.I earn $9.00 per hour. He makes $27. Am I looking at this wrong or is he just a cheapskate. We have only been dating for 1 month. And he is talking of us moving in already. Wrong. Help.
2007-02-16 03:15:35 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm truly sorry that you needed to ask this question. Your "boyfriend" is far more boy than man and not a friend, in any sense of the word. Put him out with the empty ice cream carton.
2007-02-16 03:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pierre 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheap and not very thoughtfull, i'd say.
The way I figure it costs more to feed 5 dinner than the cost of an apple pie and a carton of ice cream. He came out ahead.
The $20 in gas he used for his needs. The wear and tear on your vehicule was compensated how? how much would he have spent on a taxi to do that same mileage? Once again he comes out ahead.
It looks like a pattern...be carefull, your salary doesn't allow you to make many financial mistakes.
To find out about his way of thinking, tell him you want to move in with him, but want to know what the financial arrangements are going to be. If he doesn't suggest an arrangement that takes into account that the fact that he earns 3 times as much as you, you know right off the bat that he's more concerned with pinching pennies that being fair.
2007-02-16 03:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a problem... FOOD is food.. for people to eat it... ANd how is he gonna get mad at some KIDS!! now imagine if you live together , Is he gonna have labels on food, soap, ... shoot even the TV... it sounds like you need more time to work out the kinks anf talk about those things or it will only get worse in the future. I have kids, and am in a new relationship.. its hard. but both ways... kids are the most important. ANd yes if he makes 3X as much as you and complaining about a pie... hummm what does that really say... Just take it easy.. and NO moving in until... he can share like a grown man.
2007-02-16 03:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by c_leoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship and fast, he should not be acting that way over some ice cream and pie, especial if he brought it to the meal. as for the gas didn't anyone teach him you use it you fill it. if he earns as much as you say than he needs to learn to budget or something,
if he is complaining about your kids just on food what do you think will happen if he moves in, it will make things hard on you and your kids and it will be his over ours
i wish you the best of luck, and truly think things out about him, and take deep thought on the answers you receive
2007-02-16 04:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems bad ... And I don't like the way it sounds he's acting towards your kids either. Does he think it's acceptable for him and his son to eat as much food as they want whilst your kids are second class citizens in their own home? He seems a bit of a user, unless he can explain why he is being so selfish in my opinion I would seriously consider dumping him. If this is what he's like after 1 month (when he should still be trying to be on his best behaviour!), what's he going to be like a year down the line?!
2007-02-16 03:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like bad news. He obviously has some misguided ideas about money. I'm not one to say that the guy should pay for everything, but if he makes so much more money than you, it just makes sense for him not to worry about little stuff like that. I don't know anything else about him, so I'm not going to say that you should dump him because of this, but YES he is cheap. And cheap or not, you shouldn't let him move in after dating for only a month.
2007-02-16 03:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by derelicthypotheses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would guess he is trying to be scupulously even about costs, perhqps he has debts, and is treating you as he would one of his male friends. You, if you are about to make an emotional commment, want him to show you that he can look after you and you see this attitude as selfish. You probably are neither in much of a financial position to be overly generous with the other. If you get prgenant agaion and have a child with hin, you will want to know that you dont have to beg for everything. Sit down with him and let him know how is behavious is making you feel. If he changes or you can compromise you win, otherwise get out while you are still friends.
2007-02-16 03:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Chris C 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
woman just read what you wrote look at it from our perspective hell yeah he is a cheap skate .why wasnt he driving his own car to take his sons frind home
.and im sorry but if you bring somthing to someones house when you r invited for dinner what you bring is a gift for the host a nice thing to do i would run now girl it will only get worse if you move in its going to become i work i bring in the food and YOUR
g.d.kids eat it all ask yourself this one question its a simple one.
do u see yourself with him in say 3 to 5 years from now?
2007-02-16 03:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt move in yet. and yes he is being cheap. it is only ice cream! come on! and most of it was for the kids he needs to get over it and help you out more. why dont you start to treat him the way he does you.
2007-02-16 03:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by melissapinkfloyd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl are you crazy. He is cheap! Does he have a car of his own. If I borrow someone's car I will make sure I fill it up before I return it.
If you are looking for this guy to take care of you, he is not the one.
2007-02-16 03:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Plus Size Panther! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋