Ok my Fiance and I have just moved into a new house (we bought). When he was at the old one he had his cell phone at the new house and it kept going off (text message). He has always said that I can use his phone or whatever. Well I didnt want to touch it and just let it go. After a half hour I flipped it open just to stop it and it was from a number I didnt know and I just shut it. I told him when he got home he had a text and I said I flipped his phone just to stop it from continuously ringing. He got MAD! He asked if I read it and I said no. Which I didnt. He said that its some chick texting one of his co-workers. Which I dont understand that. All of his co-workers are married and he said that they are using his phone so they dont get into trouble with their wives. He did get extremely upset with me and wouldnt talk to me. Also in the last four months there has been pics of woman on our computer and he said that he gets them in his email. Help?? Am I overreacting??
2007-02-16 03:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by Believe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow your right that is a tough one, I don't think that you are over reacting at all.. i would be doing the same, but i would have read the texts, there is no way that i wouldn't, and another thing, if he is doign this for his buddy's at work, why wouldn't he tell you that his buddys, misstress is using his phone to contact him..she hun, i think everything there is a little suspiouus, I think you need to sit down and really have a talk with you fiance cause this can lead tobig problems in the future IF he is cheating on you. and for your sake i hope he's not, cause i hate lier cheatin bastards. but you really need to sit and have a heart to heart. AND another thing, if he is letting his buddy use his phone to cheat on his wife then there is something wrong with that.
and if he is cheating on you then he don't love you and you need to get out, or kick his *** out, cause i am sorry no matter how much he tells you that he loves you, if he cheats tehy don't love ya. been there i know it hurts
2007-02-16 03:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are overreacting, however I might suggest take a deep breath think calming thoughts and ask him whats going on. If you guys have just bought a house and are planning to get married you need to get everything out in the open. Explain to him that if he's getting texts for his friend that one thing, although you may not agree with it, as long as he's being honest with you. These are things you need to now before you get married, better to know now and make a decision than after you are married. Based on what you said, his behavior indicates that he is hiding something, but what exactly it is is the question. Talk to him and get all the information before making a choice and good luck. :)
2007-02-16 03:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. If it is stuff his co-workers are doing then why not let you see? Why would that be so upsetting to him?
To me, the biggest red flag is that even if it is his co-workers, his allowing them to use his number means he condones that kind of thing. If he is willing to cover for them - will they do the same for him?
If it were me, I would walk away. a realtionship without honesty is a waste of time. Sell the house and get your money back.
2007-02-16 03:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you are over reacting, because if it was just suppose to be for his co-workers why the temper, come on pics on the cpu open your eyes, see it now before it's to late, trust my sisters husband was the same way, and she stayed but when the truth came out she was crushed. one think you want in a relationship is trust and honesty
2007-02-16 03:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nice isn't it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend,
you are not over reacting. Something smells fishy and I suggest you get to the bottom of it before you actually go around assuming the obvious. If you really must, hire a detective. It's a matter of your life and love and you really don't deserve this from him.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 03:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's that little voice inside telling you? We all know the answer to this question, before we even voice it to others. A sudden change in behavior? Pictures of women on the computer? Honey, you can listen to what he says, but if it were your friend with this same question, what would your advice be for her?
2007-02-16 03:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flag keep track of him.His answer dosen't fly .Put a hold on marriage till you learn more about him. Rather now than later.
2007-02-16 03:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not over reacting.if in doughty be more discreet about it or go on a talk show sometime.
2007-02-16 03:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by kevin d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear...nothing's wrong...but its good to be possesive sumtimes.... but i really dont know wat to say in this case..
i mean........y is his cell used by others ?? try to confront him and sort it out wid him
GOOD LUCK !!
2007-02-16 03:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by ღ♥*~Samantha*~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋