my cousin is getting married and has only been with her 2 years....I would just like to hear some views if you think this is right or not. I know you will all have dif opinions, as I have my own.
Thans alot! <3
2007-02-16 03:09:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well my grandpa and grandma got married after a month of being together, had 7 kids together and was together 30 something years before my grandpa passed away. So if he loves her enough to wanna marry her even though it seems to soon for others, then yeah he should marry her. You should just be happy for him. He is making a commitment in his life, and he will need support from his family. 2 years is a long time maybe not as long as some wait. But he probably loves her so much that he cant wait.
2007-02-16 03:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Amber Vance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I'm having the same thing in my family... And the only thing i cant stand is that i really have no say in what happens. But I have a cousin that's only been going out with this guy for about 2 or so years and they broke up twice with in those years. And me plus my whole family thinks she could do so much better. I feel that 2 years is okay to get engaged but but to wait at least a year or so before actually getting married. Marriage is not something that u rush. Cause its forever, and if he's thinking that he leave the marriage if he wants then tell him not to do it.
Hope that answers ur question
2007-02-16 11:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm well, two years may not seem that long to some people but it is long for others. there have been many people who only get married after a few months. it really is not up to other people (at least in this country/culture) if they should or should not get married. is it up to the two people involved - if they feel that they are ready for it and up for it then more power to them.
personally, i think two years is the average time nowadays.. my cousin has only been with his current girlfriend for about the same amount of time and he's planning on asking her to marry him. i also have another cousin who just got married after many many years of dating - her now husband has been involved in my family events since i was younger.
if for some reason you are worried that it is too soon or not the right person for you cousin, then you should talk to him. he may not want to listen but he should also understand that as your family member you want whats best for him (especially if you are close to him and hes more like a brother than a cousin).
i think it depends on the couple for the amount of time theyve been dating before they get engaged.
2007-02-16 11:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by HK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this how you will. According to Dr. Phil, research has shown that marriages last longer when engagement happens between six and eighteen months. Anything before that and the two people don't know each other well enough and anything longer than that shows a lack of confidence in their feelings. Hope that helps.
2007-02-16 11:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if they really are inlove with each other and feel like they know each other then why not. You really don't truely know someone until you move in with them and time with that person. It's hard to say because your not in their shoes, They feel like there ready then I would just give them your blessing. Relationships take time and energy to make it work even for couples that have been together for years "Communication and understading is the key" If they hold that then they will be okay.
2007-02-16 11:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-02-16 11:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by US 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea why not?! If they're in love. Plus why do you care?!
2007-02-16 11:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋