should i end it with him?

Question

I have been seeing a guy for 9 months, gwe have been going on dates, meeting at his house etc.

I am currently in a relationship and so is he. I am not happy in my relationship and i no what i am doing is wrong.

I have really fallen for him and cant stop thinking about him 24/7. Its driving me mad. I text him most days, we only meet up every 2 weeks or so but when we do he makes me feel good, and is always really loving towards me.

I have asked him how he feels and he has said that he likes me alot but its messy and that he would end up hurting me. I am being stupid but i cant help how i feel about him.

Should i end it with him? and how do i get over him?

i was thinking about texting him saying that it would be best to stop seeing each other as its hurting me not being able to be with him. does that sound desperate?

Answer 1

It may not be easy, but you should end it. You've talked about your feelings and he's made his intentions clear. "I'm only going to hurt you" means that he isn't going to leave his relationship for you. It is obvious that you aren't happy with sharing him, so tell him you can't do it anymore. It also sounds as if you aren't happy in your primary relationship. Maybe it's time to end that one, too. It wouldn't hurt you to be single again, find yourself, live your life on your own terms. Time will help you get over him, as will focusing on treating yourself well. When the time is right, you'll attract a man that meets all of your criteria for a great relationship. You won't be tempted to stray, and he will be devoted to you 100%. Good luck.

Answer 2

If the man tells you that he could end up hurting you what more are you asking for , are waiting for the exact moment to come for the hurt whether you are stupid or not like you say, somebody tells you in plain english they may end up hurting you goodness, dont let it be so hard to sit one meeting day and say to him it was very lovely that we were friends but as i see it, let us end our intimate friendship and just be social if it can be, no hard feelings with each other, and just let us say bye bye for now because it is not really right what we are doing, It is unfaithfulness on both of us side.

Answer 3

Well, if you were to end up with him there would always be that thought that if he did it to her, he may just do that to you too. You should break off all ties and try to work things out with your current boyfriend. You say your not happy with your man but your still with him, so there is something there. You can get through this. Tell him you dont wanna see him anymore, cause your already hurting cause of this. NO one is worth this much pain. Good Luck sweetie.

Answer 4

End your currant relationship and the friendship with the other guy. Time is the best healer. As is studying, hard work and a worth while activity that doesn't involve breaking hearts. Your not ready for any relationship at this point of time.

Answer 5

It sounds despretat. Instead of its hurting me not to be able 2 be wit him say its probably ta best thing 2 do because he said its messy. He'll text u bak if he really cares. He might just say somethin tat'll make u love him again. Try not 2 fall 4 it.

Answer 6

you sohould really do some soul searching.first, you hafta settle the relationship euu harb 1st.if euu reli tink dat euu dont love him anymore then you should break up. Let him know that the feeling is no longer there.


whereas fot the other guy, he may like you just as a friend and you are just thinking too deep.he may just treat you as a good girl friend and thats it. you should ask him to make things clear between you and him.

Answer 7

first of all, how can you be in a relationship with someone else if you were all ready in one, first you need to do is finish what you started and end the bad relationship, because truely you want to start fresh, no strings attached, if he can't ended the one he is in he's not worth it. the only way you can grow in a relationship if both are in it together souly devoted.

Answer 8

You should follow your heart. If you are not in a happy realtionship, you should just end it. It could worse and worse. You deserve to be happy, and if this new guy is making you happy stick with him. Good Luck!!

Answer 9

*big sigh* Isn't love splendid? End it now or else it will just drag on. If he wanted to really be with you, and you with him...you would make the commitment to make it happen...end of story.

Get out now before it gets any more complicated and harder to give up.

Answer 10

YOu should end it with your bf and the other guy. Because your not being true with your bf and he deserves better. and the other guy is not for youbecause if hes cheating on his current gf with you he will do it to you. You need to start from scratch.