Im n love with a guy that I used to just have a pure sex relationship. Feelings started 2 develop n I was ovr his house everyday. He tol me that if i couldnt reach him on his phone to just come ovr his house. one day i decided to take him up on his offer n he was having sex with another female. later i found out he gave me somethn i got rid of it. i know he's wrong for me and he hurt me so bad by doing that. But I cant help but think about him. When i see him he's alwys n my face calling my name or pulling my hair as i walk pass. Whn he sees a guy tryin 2 talk 2 me he trys his best to draw my attention from the guy to him. But u see the funny thing is tht he tol me he wasnt ready for a relationship whn wer 2gethr but he started messing with one of his coworkers n shes playin stepmom 2 his son n he 's driving her truck. What do i do? is somethin wrong wit me? leave him alone? stay away what? It would be kind hard to stay away because my friend is part owner of the business he works in
2007-02-16 03:02:00 · 16 answers · asked by FauxDr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone else, your not in love your just emotionally attached. Distance yourself from him and ignore him when he comes around. Find someone else, or your gonna end up hurting yourself over and over again.
2007-02-16 03:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
o.k. It is alright to make mistakes like these when you are a teenager but you should start to learn better as you get older. You said that it was purely sexual but it doesnt sound that way, if you cant stay focused and not fall in love with someone after have a "buddy" relationship with them you may need to re evaluate how you handle yourself sexually. You are talking about all of these emotions that should be reserved for somebody who actually wants to call you his girl and not be ashamed. Why would you sweat someone who has other partners. I am sure that is not what you want. So stop selling yourself so short and figure out what you want by yourself. Sex only makes things more difficult. get a hold of your hormones and start acting like a mature and stable woman. He is not playing you he is playing himself. Let him see that you are different that you are not like the other ladies he messes with that you deserve all of the person you want to be with. Make him sweat, while you stay cool!
2007-02-16 11:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep your distance - this guy not only caused you heartache, he GAVE you something you didn't want - that no one wants. That's a good indicator there that this dude isn't in it for a commitment...oh yeah, and we mustn't forget about the other chick he was getting down with when you went to his house.
Just because your friend is part owner of the business doesn't mean you have to get involved - be thankful you aren't the part owner and work around it. This guy is trying to be a player, and will get it anywhere he thinks he can find it. Please save yourself from further pain and go on about your business.
You seem very sweet and considerate, and you deserve MUCH better that this guy...leave him be and go find someone who is worthy of your attention. I wish you the best and take care. :)
2007-02-16 11:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this is a guy that you love. He has one girl taking care of his kid and he drives her truck and he wants you too? Yes you should stay away but not necessarily physically. Just tell the guy to go home to his girlfriend. If he wanted you then you be the girl with the kid and he would be playin some other girl. Since you will be having contact with him then just keep it light laugh it off when he flirts. If he seriously trys to get you to go out or something then tell him again to go home to his girlfriend. You dont need this kind of anguish over a playa!!
2007-02-16 11:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was using you for what he wanted at the time. So try not to make more of the situation then it really is. Start thinking about someone else you can fall in love with. Yeah I know that it is easier said then done. But remember life goes on.
2007-02-16 11:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong with you. And I highly doubt you are "in love." You sound like you are infatuated, but saying you are in love goes a bit too far. You don't have to stay away from him. You don't sound like you are too young, so you should be mature enough to have a hold of your feelings. Go out, find someone else. Just forget about him, even if you see him often. You're a big girl, you'll get over it.
2007-02-16 11:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. Im the same i was having a bit of fun with a male friend of mine and now ive got strong feelings for him. When im with someone hes all ive missed my chance it should be me. when i split up with them then hes i dont want a relationship just fun. Ive decided to get some self respect back and say no to just sex its either he wants something more or i find someone who will treat me how i deserved. which is a lot better than someones sex toy.
2007-02-16 11:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has the caveman syndrome. I think you should stop wasting your time. If you know that he's doing all this, and you know it's not right--MOVE ON!! He already gave you some "keepsakes", thank God you got rid of it. But, Honey, be glad he didn't give you something that you couldn't get rid of. If you keep screwing him, it's a accident waiting to happen. Take Care!!
2007-02-16 11:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You behaving likee a 15 yr old girl thinking with her P**** than her brains which you seems to have very little.
Smarten up, u ar being used. drop him and volunteer some of that spare time before u pick up aids. have u no morals? No parents? get a life. u r a disgrace to the women.
2007-02-16 11:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep getting hurt by him, stay in the relationship, but if you are tired of getting hurt, find someone that will respect you for the person you are. you deserve better than him. and when you see him your friends work, say Hi. because he will never change. and you can't change him, you have to accept him the way he is. good luck.
2007-02-16 11:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋