We dated for 2 and a half years before we got married a couple months ago. Everything's well, and I'm going to start working soon.
I was always lead to believe that family is everything, and although I'm only 20, I'm totally confident that I'm ready to start a family.
I worked at a dar care for almost 2 years and I have 5 younger siblings, so I know what I'm doing, and I know a child takes alot of time, love, and money.
What I don't know is, how my husband feels. I told him about how my parent said, jokingly " so when can I expect to see some grand babies?" and he kinda made an 'uummm' kinda look.
I came from a big family. One that said 'i love you' every night. He came from a smaller family that didn't show that kind of emotion regularly. Well, he's my new family now, and I love him to bits.. but I want us to start my own family.
Should I talk to him? OR does his body language say enough?
2007-02-16 02:57:49 · 4 answers · asked by October Sky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You just got married....talk to the man. You need to communicate with him and be honest. Maybe he isn't as ready as you are for a family and would like to spend some time just being a couple. Your young and have plenty of time to have kids.....Take the time to be a couple, travel & have fun.
2007-02-16 05:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you not discuss having children before you married? His body language spoke for you, however, you do need to discuss your wishes to start a family. While you did date him for 2 1/2 years he still may want to wait for a couple of years. Don't pressure him in to having a baby right away, just confirm that you both do want children and ask him when he would like to start having children. Enjoy being a newlywed, save some money to buy a home, take some vacations together.
2007-02-16 11:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He just might not be ready at this point. But please do talk to him. I got married at 22 and we ended up waiting 12 years before having kids (we had twins). We talked about it and it was a matter of timing with us. But we also wanted to spend time with just us...establishing our marriage, traveling, being selfish...etc.
But communication is key. You can't "guess" at what he is feeling.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 11:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by twinmomm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel. he might just want the same thing, didn't you discuss children before you got married?
2007-02-16 11:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋