I fell in love with a guy last year, he then moved to a different country for 2 years. He promised that he would come back to me and then ask me to marry him. But it's been a month since I last heard from him and I want to let him go and move on with my life. Thing is....its easier said than done. Any ideas?
2007-02-16 02:52:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This might cheer you up ......
Go to sleep to night,
and think of someone special
it might be a friend, family or lover
If you belive you will recieve
a special hug tonight!
And that 1 person that you have thought of
may ring the bell on your door tommorow
and say how much he/she loves you
but then again maybe your heart mey be filled with sorrow
Now its up to you to think of what you believe is true
and maybe one day your dream will come true!
When I split up with my boyfriend I wrote this poem,
I beleived in myself and eventhough he didnt come back for me I knew that I had to move on.
I went to work the next day, with my held held up high
another boy asked me out so I gave it a try
Now me and him are like fingers crossed
I hope that we will be together forever!
Hope this cheers you up,
If you ever get down read this when-ever
That was a true story
Emz x
2007-02-16 06:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by x- Emz -x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in your situation, except i was the one to move away - I was going to come back for him one day, but I guess I took to long as he's now engaged. It still hurts, but my advise would be to get back out there and start dating again. Most of the guys you go out with wont even last more than 1 or 2 dates as they'll always fall short of the other guy your still longing for, but eventually it will get easier and one day you'll go on a great date and wont even think of the other one....so start getting out there and going for it babe! Your too pretty to waste away pinning for someone who may no longer exist....
Best of luck!
2007-02-16 10:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Pippa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ....I' m kinda in the same situation but only that the guy didnt lleave the country..i'd been with m y ex for 2 years and we spent alot of time together and he broke up with me yesterday on valentines day....im in the same boat...im tired of the thigns we go through the promisesa nd all of the above..so how doy uo move on?????........hard to answer...............i just know we both cant move on until we are over the first guy.....becuz if yo umove on but is still interested in the first guy you're bound to hurt som eone elses feelings..so my advice (im doing the same) is step out on the scene lookin your best and just live you life like its golden..........guys were built on a lie.....so what the tell you is bound to fall....good luck hunni!!!
2007-02-16 10:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by shesocute16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive read some of the answers to your question, and this is one of my own difficulties. I am facing this myself it will be interesting what the salutation is. All ive been told it takes time and good friends and one day out of the blue is if by magic a new door opens. A things turn out great. And by the looks of you it want be long. All the best x x
2007-02-16 11:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by NEST 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not understanding you. This guy lives in another country and you haven't heard from him in a month. What is there to let go of? Stop fooling yourself and get on with your life.
2007-02-16 10:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 8 step process:
* STEP 1: Allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Grieving includes going through feelings such as sadness, anger, shock and acceptance.
* STEP 2: Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Depending on the length of the relationship or how important it was to you, you may need weeks, months or longer to get over it.
* STEP 3: Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat right and get some exercise.
* STEP 4: Nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better - such as taking walks, baths or naps; listening to music; reading; or watching movies.
* STEP 5: Plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the loss.
* STEP 6: Consider joining a support group to be with others dealing with similar feelings. Ask your doctor for a referral.
* STEP 7: Talk to your doctor about possibly taking medication if you're having trouble sleeping, or if you're experiencing anxiety or depression. Or discuss the options of herbal supplements such as St. John's wort (for depression) or kava kava (for anxiety).
* STEP 8: Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, relationships and life.
2007-02-16 11:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by DR. India 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your right it is easier said then done, and at least you know that. try hanging around with your friends again and not to be alone . talk to other guys, there will be others Go out and have fun, live day by day. eventually it will fade away.
2007-02-16 10:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard letting go when u love someone. be patient. let him settle down where he is. if u really love him, don't let him go just like that. i know everyone is saying, move on but don't do this till u've done everything to spk to him and find out how things are. give him some time and contact him again.
2007-02-16 11:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by rambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP thinking about him. I know it's hard but it's the least you can do as of now. You're the only one who can help yourself. And another thing, focus yourself in doing the things you like so that you'll be able to forget about that guy for a while. :)
2007-02-16 10:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Faye ^___^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving to a different country and settling down there is tough.Give him some more time.
2007-02-16 10:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋