Guys and girls i need ur help?
OK i told this girl that i dont want to date her i just wanted to be her friend, and she still hinting at us getting together it drive me nuts and i really dont care about her i am sorry to say that but my heart dosent feel anything for her even as a friend we have both diffrent intrests and lifestyles for us to match as friends and all of a sudden she wants to be all close to my heart wich she said and wants to get us to the point of me saying i love her ok i deleted her from my msn am a bad guy because i feel bad
what else can i do to get thrw to her
she is rather annoyeing
i go to college with this girl
2007-02-16 02:51:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first of all you are not a bad guy for feeling bad, you are a good guy for feeling bad. I can tell by the attitude of your whole letter that you are probably a very decent guy which is why she feels for you as she does.
Unfortunately some people just can't or won't take a hint even if it isn't a hint but a told fact. I would certainly refrain from lying to her or causing her any physical harm (not that I think you would) and also refrain from being mean. I know that this will take a lot of self restraint but it is the only way.
You say you have told her and I have no idea what you said or how you said it but try again and be patient, it may take some time. I know this may sound contrary to what you are trying to do but invite her to meet you somewhere public but not too noisy and tell her your true feelings, I would say something like " Look I know you have feelings for me and I do appreciate that ,but I am sorry because I do not have the same feelings for you" . You should also say something to the effect that if she keeps on harassing you that you may be forced to be more defiant and tell her that you may even ignore her completely. In the end just make sure that she has no doubt as to your feelings. Tell her these things with conviction and she may just get the message the first time you try this.
I hope this is or will be some good advice. Honestly, this is the first time I have ever given a stranger advice but being 41 and a very friendly person and I have had many friends and solved many disputes and stopped many conflicts, I feel that the advice I have given you is good advice and I truly hope it works for you.
If you use this advice please let me know how it worked out.
Thank You and good luck.
2007-02-16 03:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the absolute truth using as much tact as you possibly can. Start off by saying you really don't want to hurt her, because this is what it sounds like. You caring for her shows emotion which can be interpreted in a few ways- her interpretation differs from yours. Just don't go sleeping with her to lead her on so you have a hole to plant your seed! Leave her alone after the conversation, become suddenly very busy everytime she wants to "chat".
2007-02-16 03:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you cant even be friends with her if she is going to continue to try and push you into a relationship with her. just tell her that you dont want to date her and that you dont want to be friends with her either. if she continues to keep calling tell her you will file stalking charges if that doesnt work then there should be a counceler or someone in a position of authority at your college that should be able to set her straight. harrssement is never acceptable
2007-02-16 02:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her u don't lik her. It might be mean but it gets straight 2 ta point and she'll eventually get ova it.
2007-02-16 02:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't delete her from your msn. you shouldn't be a jerk about it. just approach her and talk to her about it calmly. she will eventually get it. and it isn't so bad to have someone like you every once and a while
2007-02-16 02:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by date doctor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are feeling overwhelmed by her persistence that you are not comfortable with how she interacts with you. That you need space
2007-02-16 02:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, make sure she gets the message.
2007-02-16 02:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be mean..maybe you're just too insensitive..chillax
keep repeating her that..
2007-02-16 02:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by jiji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋