is it just a man thing.... we have been together for a year now... but i feel like he doesnt really get into my gifts...
is a mans gifts to you a reflection of his feelings or just something he isnt sooo into...
2007-02-16 02:48:49 · 18 answers · asked by coco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone with money next time.
2007-02-16 02:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can surely relate to you. I have a husband who doesn't put a whole lot of thought or effort into gift giving. But he does have a heart of gold, and if I were to make it a point of telling him what exactly it was that I wanted, he would walk over hot coals to give it to me. The problem is, he can't come up with any great ideas on his own, unless I give him a clue. When left to their own devices, some men don't have a clue as to what gifts they should give.
They need some help sometimes. It doesnt mean they dont love us. They do. But Shopping and gift giving isnt always a guy thing. That doesnt mean that they don't love you.
2007-02-16 10:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a guy that is sweet and loving to you all the time. What difference does the gift make?
The best gift a man can give a woman is love and affection. The same can be said of a woman. He gives you that.
You might be more concerned about why a gift means so much to you. Are you setting yourself up for failure or are you losing interest and looking for excuses to end it?
2007-02-16 10:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Collette L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's being "sweet and loving", then I'd say his gifts are not a reflection of his feelings, or at least not as you see them. Many guys don't spend as much time trying to find the "perfect" gift as they would just prefer to be sweet and loving to you on a regular basis. Talk to him. If he knows more about what you really prefer, maybe he will change what he gives.
Then again, he might not be that into it. I'm not the greatest gift-giver either. I'd rather be sweet and loving on a regular basis.
2007-02-16 10:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by kevness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much effort do you want him to put into a gift ??
I believe that it's not the gift that counts, it's the thought.
Some men aren't really good at gift choosing, perhaps he thought that the gift he got you was pretty nice.
I mean, you guys have only been together for a year... technically you still don't know each other that well. Perhaps as time goes on and as he gets to know you better, his gifts could improve.
2007-02-16 11:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by M.O. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is sweet and loving, you don't really have anything to worry about. Guys, in general, are not in touch with their feelings. They get something and even if they like it you wouldn't know it from their reactions.
With guys giving gifts, I've had bf's on both sides of the spectrum. One just always gave me generic type gifts no real thought put in them, and another always gave me something really personalized, like a CD i liked, or a journal to write in. I usually just give as I receive.
I wouldn't read too much into his reaction so long as your in a otherwise good relationship.
Good Luck.
2007-02-16 10:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Judge him by how he treats you on a daily basis. Some people just aren't that into picking out gifts. I'm not good at it at all. It's like a talent. You know he loves you if he's good to you every day. Don't worry so much about the gifts.
2007-02-16 10:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with him giving a little something no matter how small it is it would sure mean something to you and my, my, may be you will have to kind of say some thing like for instance, say I saw this little thing at such and such a place and i love but i dont have the funds to get and see if he would make the effort to get it for you, sometimes they dont think like women do.
2007-02-16 10:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is sweet and loving to you why do you need gifts? Materialist things shouldn't matter if he is the way he is. My fiancee is the same way. He doesn't get me gifts, but he shows me that he loves me. That's all I want. Gifts don't matter to me.
2007-02-16 10:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop focusing so much on what he buys you and take notice of how he treats you, how he makes you feel. That's the real measure of how he feels for you. Maybe he just hates shopping or doesn't have a knack for what to buy you. It doesn't mean he doesn't care.
2007-02-16 10:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great you don't have a materialistic boyfriend. I would much rather have a sweet and loving guy, than one who gave me stuff without the sweet and loving part!
If you want to get him stuff, fine - but if he's not into it, stop wasting your money! Write him little love notes instead (or something along those lines).
2007-02-16 10:51:59 · answer #11 · answered by I See You 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋