Why is it when you find a good girl that has everything going for her self. like a good job. is going to school. Pays all of her bills. is sweet, funny, good looking, and would do nice things for you, and even give you great sex. why oh why do you guys act like you don’t care. or why oh why do you guys act like you are not interested. and why do you guys play games. and when that girl just gives up on you after you didn’t treat her right why then you guys try to get her back and then its to late.
2007-02-16 02:46:54 · 14 answers · asked by ♥live life to the fullest♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, so that girl would be you, and thats what happend to you.
But why do you think, that some strangers on the internet could tell you, why your (ex?) boyfriend is acting like he is acting ?
Not all guys are the same. Or do you think, all girls are the same ?
Do you think, all girls are like you ? having a job, paying bill, caring for her man and such ?
I had to smile when you said "EVEN offeirng sex".
even ? well, kinda important part that is.
However, there is no answer to this question here. Only that guy knows why, so I suggest, go and have a talk with him, ask him everything you need to know.
That is, what I did, when my gilr left me. I asked her why. I got an answer. She also tried to come back to me, when it was to late - I had a new girl already.
In my oppinion, thats best you can do: first get a new boyfriend, and when you are in love with someone else, and few months passed, then go and ask your ex. That distance will mek him to be honest. He will know, that he lost you for good, and he has no reasons to lie. Maybe when he has a new girl, it will be even easier for him to talk to you.
Wait until the right time, then ask him. You will know. not today, but one day you will get your answer, from the only person in this world who can answer it. be patient, and meanwhile go and have fun.
2007-02-16 02:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are we talking about you? IMHO, A guy would have to be brain dead to pass up a girl you describe. Seriously, there are some of us that might feel threatened by a girl who has it all together. Strange as it sounds, a guy may not feel worthy of this girl, thinking she has everything. A guy would feel inadequate like he has nothing to give back. It's a male ego thing. In simple terms.. a lot of guys can't handle being "upstaged" Not the girl's fault. Either find a guy who is similar in the ways you describe or act a little submissive and not so independent.
2007-02-16 11:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by MrTwister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the same analogy as the remote control for your TV. Men don't care what is on...they only care about what else is on. It also has a lot to do with your choice in men. If you keep going after the same type of guy...why are you surprised that you keep getting the same result?
This is exactly how ugly people get married! Ouch...that came out wrong...but if you have certain expectations for a spouse, and one of them is great looks, then you can bet on them being a bit self centered. Someone who is maybe not as beautiful as your expectations, will inevitably be more attentive and appreciative of all of your other aspects.
Its just a thought
2007-02-16 10:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tyerant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the #1 question since the beginning of time.
As a guy Both side play this game that 1 reason I'm alone. It's the chase not the conquest, Grass greener on the other side ,Notch in your belt, See how controlling they can be. How many times you will come back. The most sicking is I LOVE YOU & I"M SORRY, IT WONT HAPPEND AGAIN. I MISS YOU SO MUCH.YUK.
So the best advise is to learn from talking to them & not what you hear but what you see. When you get older it might get easier not better.Have fun Be safe.
2007-02-16 11:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jay C. is right. Most of us are very attracted to pretty, successful women, but we run away when it comes time to commit because we don't really feel like those women will need us very much in a relationship. I don't think it's so much a matter of feeling inferior as it is about not feeling like there will be any way to keep her satisfied. Most girls today are very materialistic. Material things cost lots of money. Most guys don't have money to burn. We know women just want to be in a secure, loving relationship, but we also know the man is held more responsible, especially when it comes to divorce. A lot of times a woman gets to have half of everything a man owns during a divorce. Divorce is much more common today because a woman can get rid of her man as soon as he gives her children or acquires any money for her to take.
2007-02-16 17:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you have chosen men that are not worthy of your time or affection. Look to see what they have all had in common...is there a pattern? Character-wise.
If there is, I would try to find out why you are attracted to that type of man. That could tell you something about yourself.
I know if you have your life well put together, finding someone will be hard.
I can only suggest that you do not ever view a man as an accessory to your life. If he feels that way, well, you'll see a change in him. Guarenteed.
2007-02-16 10:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because sweetheart we're idiots. Any man that lets you get away is a complete moron. Don't worry, sooner or later there is going to come a guy just for you and will appreciate all that you have to give in a relationship. Just remember never settle for less than you deserve, if you do you'll get even less than you settled for. I wish you the best of luck, just don't be in such a rush.
2007-02-16 14:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, and don't take my word for bad, it is because men are afraid of girls like that. Men want a girl to depend on them, to rubb their ego. And girls like that make them feel inferior to them. It is sad but it is true. It needs a certain level of Maturity (not with age) to know how to appreciate a girl like that.
I hope that men would wake up before it is too late.
2007-02-16 10:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jay C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we don't realize what we had till we lost it. the same thing happened to me. My girl didn't give me alot of attention and then i went off and asked her best friend out and she broke up with me of course. so then i called her like 3 months later and she and i are back together and having the best time of our lives. she is like completely obsessed with me now and lets me kiss her, hold her hand, and hug her anytime i want to. and she does the same. it's great. it feels good to get a second chance
2007-02-16 10:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by date doctor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The men that you are referring to are immature little boys that haven't grown up yet. When you find a MAN he will not act that way. In the meantime, stop wasting time with moronic little boys.
2007-02-16 10:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋