i am going to be a dad in one month time, what should my shopping list contain? suggest for me some names and tell me the meanings? what can i give my wife just to show her that i love her and she has made me proud, what is expected of me as a father/husband.
2007-02-16 02:36:27 · 12 answers · asked by joseph k 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of all as a mom to 3 and one on the way, You should buy your wife a gift certificate to a spa, so she can get pampered for the day. She will love it and definately deserves it after all the hard work in the last 9 months or so.
Just be there for her, when she asks for help simply respond with "Yes, dear." :) Being supportive, loving and caring and reliable is very important.
Allow her to get some rest, let her sleep in if she can when the baby is born.
Your baby doesnt really need a gift, they don't understand. Your love is all it needs for now.
Good Luck and Congratulations
2007-02-16 02:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by Momma K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's so sweet that you are concerned in this way. You will be a great father and husband even without our advice just because it's obvious you love your family and care about them a lot.
You know what was great to have after having a baby, a day off! Get her a certificate for a dayspa and if you can't afford that maybe just a massage or facial at a nice upscale salon and watch the baby for her that day. Also, when I was in the hospital it would have been mice to have a little pampering package, a soft robe, soft slippers (you get the chills sometimes after giving birth), a nice lotion, cottonelle wipes to feel refreshed down there, some gossip magazines, a body spray to cover of the inevitable stink, deodorant, powder (Shower to Shower), a comfortable sports bra or nursing bra, some special snacks like good chocolate truffles, yummy teas, etc.
For the baby, make sure she has a good quality nice outfit for leaving the hospital, my husband visited a boutique in a upscale trendy neighborhood and got something so cute (expensive) but those things help the first pictures taken of the baby special.
For you how to be a good Dad, just show you are willing to do anyhting, when you get home from work understand how frustrating it must be for her and relieve Mom of her duties and let her relax. Offer to feed in the middle of the night, if she breastfeeds insist that she pump atleast one bottle so you can feed the baby and also be able to bond with the baby.
Good luck and you'll do great!
2007-02-16 02:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've heard of father's getting jewelery which would be nice. Also you could get her a nursing necklace, while less fancy and usually only made of semiprecious stones it is useful.
The BEST give you can give her -aside from your time. Is food. Make sure before you leave for work each morning that there are enough snacks for her in the fridge that she can eat with one hand. Veggie sticks, wraps, sandwiches, quiche. Throw a slow cooker meal in before you leave for work for dinner. Prepare meals the night before so that when you (or she) has a moment to cook dinner all the peeling chopping etc is done. And even prepare things that take a long time to cook ahead -like rice, mashed potatoes. So long as it is something that reheats well. This works best with a menu plan so that you know what to buy when you are shopping.
Make sure there is water and snacks in her nursing basket and that there are fresh blankets, diapers, reading material, remote controls, phone, etc in the basket. Even if she isn't breastfeeding having everything in one place is nice. If she is breastfeeding a nursing basket is a MUST. The basket should have a tall handle that stays standing up -easier to grab with one hand. There is nothing worse than settling in and getting the baby to latch and everything going great only to realize that you are dying of thirst, or hunger, or that the worst show is about to come on TV and you can't even turn the TV off. The diapers, wipes, spare outfit don't need to fit in the basket. Everything else including the blankets is nice to have.
2007-02-16 03:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Willow Tree offers a beautiful little wooden sculpture of a mom holding a baby. I believe they have another of a mom and dad with a baby. Either would be cute and I believe they run about $20 and up.
If you want to spend more - how about a necklace with a pink stone for a girl or a blue stone for a boy?
You could also get her a "new mom spa package" at a local spa where she can go in and be pampered for the day a few weeks after your little one arrives if you're able to stay home and care for the baby (or someone else that she also truly trusts).
For the baby's name, you might want to think of people you have known who are very special to you and your wife for either a first or middle name.
Shopping list for your newborn: lots of diapers! They have newborn diapers with a little notch cut out for the belly button that may be very sensitive and still have a part of the cord attached.
You might also want to find recipes online for making your own wipes, your own baby food, etc. because it truly IS much less expensive. Plus you know what's going into it.
If you're buying clothes, don't buy "newborn" unless your baby is a premie. Your baby will be out of them in just a couple of weeks. One-sies are wonderful (the t-shirt with the snaps along the bottom). You might want to get pacifiers if you're okay with them but make sure you get the newborn size as the regular will gag your baby.
Regarding furniture and car seats - make sure if you buy used furniture that it meets current safety standards. With the car seat, buy it new. I've heard if they're in an accident, you should never use them again.
I'm sure there is more. You might want to purchase the book, "What to expect the first year" as they likely have exhaustive information on these types of topics.
Best of luck and what a good dad to ask!
2007-02-16 02:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad bought my mom a puzzle in a tin can. I think that's the most thoughtful. And, it was nice because now I have that same tin! It's actually sitting on my coffee table in my family room.
I really wish my hubby had given me something like that. He did buy me a gift certificate to a very high end spa. Just to get your nails done is $120 dollars so I know it wasn't cheap. I just would have prefered something I could give to my son later on...
2007-02-16 02:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a nice gesture that you are willing to buy your wife a gift upon her giving birth to your child. My husband bought me a watch- a timeless gift. As a father, just continue what you're doing. Care and love your wife and child as you already are. You will be a good father!!
2007-02-16 02:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, a framed photograph of her and the baby,with a nice poem.Flowers ,that represent the birth of your child ,and the new beginning of Motherhood,Roses with Rosebuds.Just love and support them both, you are already a good Husband and Father,because you have asked the question and you care. Names, --- Girl, Fleur,meaning Flower. Boy, Thomas.meaning mature.
2007-02-16 02:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will all depend on your budget, I guess. I have friends who have given their wives BMW's for the "push present". A little extreme, though, eh? My husband bought me a diamond pendant necklace, which I now only wear on occasion due to the fact my little one loves to grab onto it! Try to aim for something of sentiment, like pay for a photographer to take a pic of the baby, etc. Something to remember this time. The sexiest thing you can do for her is help, so roll up your sleeves and dig in.
You don't need too much for a newborn, somewhere to sleep, something to sleep, a few choice pieces of clothing (they grow very quickly) and lots of hugs and kisses.
2007-02-16 02:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by ruby1duby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The greatest gift I got was an involved father, from the moment his son was born. Changing diapers, taking care of our first child, cooking meals, doing laundry, general housekeeping, all that stuff. It helped tremendously and is still appreciated even now when the kids are almost adults.
2007-02-16 03:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure ur always helping her, like changing diapers, feeding ur baby, puting ur baby to sleep,. Always offer ur wife to do it for her. shes carrying ur baby for almost a year and then pushing it out. do u know what childbirth is like? just be glad ur not a woman. To congratulate her, offer to take ur baby shopping by urself one day and buy her a day at the spa.... massage.... pedicure.... pampering! thats what she needs! believe me she will be the hapiiest woman alive. good luck daddy!
2007-02-16 02:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by *Alicia* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋