Absent fathers accused of fuelling gun crime in England , what a load of b----------xs.what say you.?

Question

First of all i object to the term ABSENT FATHER . Should not it be " Desperate father , willing to see his children ,prevented by the judiciary failing to uphold a fathers and childrens rights.
Dont blame us , blame your b------- selves .
Fathers have long since tried to maintain fair rights to have contacts with their children only the present and past denial of the courts to ensure Fathers have these rights result in mothers unable to control the children . I am insensensed with the accusation that we FATHERS are now bearing the brunt of the Governments excuse for crimes in our society, Give me my childrens hearts and minds anyday, You and only you caused the problem in your nonsupportive contacts with the children. Magistraites and high court judges in your non- wisdom brought about the issues that face us today. ABSENT FATHERS INDEED WE ARE NOT.

Femme ! I sympathsize with you , and agree there are good and bad fathers, however , mothers who prevent fathers having contacts , and i mean regular social supportive visitations from the father are contributing to the irrational way the children grow up.
Rather than let your children out on the street like a mongrel dog , arrange immediately with the divorced father an appointment to take them out , a museum, swimming , a trip to the country , fishing , anything , but not to hang around on the streets . My experience , sorry to have to say it , is that once parents divorce the mother takes it upon herself to fail her children by casting the father out with feeble excuses that alienate the whole family. the causes are far deeper than you can imagine . Fathers do care about their offspring in most cases , its the obstacles put in their way that finalise the absent bit. when was the last time you contacted your father. DO IT NOW.

Answer 1

You are SO right. I have fought tooth and nail to be able to see my daughter only to find out that she was being alienated from me. Why? Because her mother, who refuses to work due to "emotional problems" and instead chooses to be a big mooch, was given custody by default.

Answer 2

It is nothing to do directly with the family this rise in anti-social behaviour. It is the bloody government that are to blame here. They have created this situation with years and years of oppression. Another media frenzy and campaign to spin the light of these so called idiots that run our country. Families and traditional values have all broken down as the governments paved the way for a singular consumer orientated country driven by greed and inequality to make the rich richer and the poor poorer. Look at it they force tax up, and give us less and less drive us into wanting more and more but been unable to afford it, segregate families with the need for greater economic resources, we have people working two may be even three jobs just to survive the kids see little of the family, the family has little money to spare on Family trips days out... the rot is spreading the values of the family and society as we once knew it are gone... The people to blame are our governments instead of help they oppress then hide behind the breakdown of the family....!

It is all so wrong!

Answer 3

Yes but you cannot dispute the fact that many fathers, mine included, do not make an effort to see, guide and father their children. As a result mothers are left to pick up the pieces, in many cases, live on the breadline and struggle to bring up their children.

In the communities where the recent spate of gun crime has been occurring this is very much the case. I live in the area where one of these shootings took place and know that many of these children have no male role models and their fathers are absent. Due to this, eventhough many of the mother's try their hardest to bring their boys up to be law abiding citizens, peer pressure wins.

Rather than having a father to look up to these children are looking up to the "gangster" older boys who are selling drugs, robbing people and carrying guns. These older boys become their role models because they have all the things: money, fast car, respect and designer labels. These are all the things that they want but dont have because their mum cant afford to give them these things and their fathers have never been around.

The absence of a father or just a positive male role model can lead to these boys rebelling and taking the wrong path in life. They have no one to look upto, seek advice from and discuss all the things that they only really feel comfortable discussing with a male.

Not all fathers are like you and desperate to see their children. The sad truth is there are fathers who could not care less about their children. Make no effort to see them and leave it to the mother to struggle and make ends meat. This in turn breeds a situation where the children feel rejected, frustrated and worthless.

But there is no denying that in these communities where gun crime is rife a lack of positive role models who are respected and absent fathers is a major contributor to the the problems that youths, mostly males, are causing at the moment.

If you are not able to see your own children but feel that you are in a position to make a positive influence on young people then I suggest you use your time and energy to mentor young males in deprived areas. Your time and postivity may save one more life!