Ok here's the story, my husband and I spent half a day shoveling our driveway and part of the street so we could get out after all of the snow we got here in Indy. The lady that lives across the street decided to use the space as her personal parking area and block me into my driveway instead of shoveling her own drive. I had to ask her to move this morning so I could leave for work. She was irritated, but it didn't seem to be at me. She said she couldn't park anywhere else or she would get stuck. Meanwhile my daughter has had a fever all night and I politely told her that my husband would be asking her to move again so he couldt take our daughter to the Dr. if she parked there again and of course she did so my husband told her she would have to move and she got mad. He told her if she didn't move he would have her towed. They use our front yard to turn around all the time and frequently get stuck in it. We have never said anytbing to them until today. Was that wrong?
2007-02-16 02:22:43 · 15 answers · asked by OrianasMom 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Wrong? Not in the least. Being a neighbor is a happenstance of geography, and in the best of cases it results in people who look out for each other and get along well.
But when one of the neighbors is not of that sort (such as the one you've mentioned), then it's another matter entirely.
Both you and your husband need to put your foot down. Explain that, while you've tried to be not only accomodating but forgiving, things have gone on long enough in this manner and that there will be serious changes to how you interact from that point onward. If the neighbors are using your front yard to turn around, you need to let them know that this is no longer something you're willing to overlook - they can pull a J-turn like anyone else would, and further property damage (such as to your lawn) will not only be documented but will be pursed legally for restitution. Blocking your driveway? Tow the car after the first notice. They can shovel or snow-blow like anyone else, and if they're too apathetic (or just pathetic) to do their part then they can pay for their laziness in dollars and cents instead of sweat.
2007-02-16 02:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. It is not wrong to ask her to move.
Is she elderly or is there a reason that she cannot shovel her own driveway or parking area? If so, offer to do it for her. If not, then I would calmly tell her that, if she continues to park there, you will call the authorities to have it towed), as it is an inconvenience. Not to mention the fact that, if there were a true emergency, and you could not get her to answer the door, you would be stuck.
I would address the fact that she is tearing up my yard when she uses it (whether she gets stuck or not). Try putting up something to block her from turning around in your yard (maybe she will get the hint). Put up signs that says "No Turnaround" or something to that effect.
Being Christian does not mean that people can abuse you or your personal belongings--including your yard and your parking spot.
2007-02-16 02:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by Christian93 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you were perfectly right to say something to her. You should have told her to shovel a nice spot out for her car and park there. Unfortunately, if you shovel a spot out that isn't on your property then she can park there so you are probably better off just shoveling your own property so that rude people like her don't take advantage of you and your husband. Have a great week:)
2007-02-16 02:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have established boundaries quite some time ago! But anyway, if she is so desparate for a place to park, her lazy *** should be out there shoveling out an area just for her rather than blocking your driveway...that is well beyond rude and makes it obvious that this woman lacks common sense. Screw the warnings, get it towed!
2007-02-16 02:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, but you didn't go far enough. Where's your spine? Tell her you shoveled the street for your own use, and if she needs a place to park, she can shovel another space! And her own driveway as well.
I spent 1.5 hrs shoveling snow the other day. No fun, but it has to be done!
2007-02-16 02:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by sandiemaye 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. You have every right to protect your property whether there is snow or no snow. I have an annoying neighbor as well, and fortunately I live in a condo so I went to the board about it and they took care of it. I would suggest you go to your local police station and just talk to someone about what options you have to get her off your property.
2007-02-16 02:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. If you were blocking her in I'm sure she would ask you to move. It's your driveway and your front lawn. You guys should have been said something to her. Maybe now she won't do it anymore.
2007-02-16 02:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Next time she parks there, shovel a shitload of snow all around her car, so she can't get out.
2007-02-16 02:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
If she blocks you in again, call the police. Meantime post a sign on your property: Private property or no tuning in drive.
2007-02-16 02:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by ne11 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you definitely weren't wrong. Why is it that people who take advantage of others and do the wrong thing are the ones who get angry and nasty? The word for it is "chutzpah" which means "to have alot of nerve."
2007-02-16 02:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋