My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years now. We really understand each other and are totally in sync, but there are times I ask myself if I can wait for him because he's still in school (studying medicine) and I've graduated. Moreover, we are the same age.
I sometimes feel the need to see other peolpe (not sleep with them mind u!), and at times I just feel that things wont work out because I'd have to wait another 4yrs for him to graduate. I feel like I should call it off now and start over with somone else, but I keep comparing every one else to him emotionally and they usually come out wanting.
Pls someone make sense of my ramblings. I need to know if wat I'm thinking is normal and what options to take.
2007-02-16 02:19:24 · 7 answers · asked by giness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do is have some time apart and see how you feel about him after a few months.
2007-02-23 06:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are thinking is normal. The grass is always greener on the other side..If you really are totally in sync with each other you might want to stay where you are. But that does not mean you can't make new friends and hang out with others. This will happen naturally if you take advantage of the next four years and pursue your own career.You may find someone else you like better and is in sync with as well. But you might not!
Why would you throw away a gem to start over with some unknown person?
Just be patient for now and accomplish things on your own. When and if you guys do settle down you will be happy that you took the time to find out about life and develop your full potential.
Good Luck And Have Fun!
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2007-02-16 02:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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This question is a grown up question, so I'll answer it truthfully.
Hey, just date other people where you currently are - AND TELL THEM THE TRUTH.
This way, you won't have a guilty conscience. Tell them that you're passing time until JOE comes home. Just don't invest emotionally and you'll be ok.
When JOE comes home, they'll know what time it is.
If you've waited 4 years thus far, 4 more is not going to hurt you - physically.
You'll stand far more to gain than lose going this route.
Remember, HE'LL BE GRADUATING FROM MED SCHOOL.
Women LOOK for men that are financially stable - he will be.
Remember that - OBSTACLES ARE WHAT YOU SEE WHEN YOU TAKE YOUR EYES OFF THE GOAL.
Also, the grass is greener on the other side....so are the weeds (same color).
One love....................
2007-02-16 02:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It seems like y'all are on different plateaus. you should tell him how you feel, and maybe it's best that y'all just remain friends at this time.
2007-02-23 08:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sue G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're having the exact same problem as my friend...which is scary...I am just curious...is your name Maria?
2007-02-16 02:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are having these thoughts, feelings then you either need to talk to him, sort it out or leave him.
2007-02-23 23:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by natalie xJx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think he should dump you. why you ask? well lets see. you say you love him but you arent willing to wait for a fricken doctor to marry you. you don't seem all that bright. begone!
2007-02-16 02:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋