Ok so this is how it is...
I'm a young lady who is talking to this MUCH older guy. He already has a "almost" 2 year old son. BUT he's not with his girlfriend anymore. My friends tell me that I dont need a guy like him, that he is TOO old for me. BUT the thing is.... I REALLY REALLY like this guy!!! Who knows... he "said" that he would wait for me but I dont know if I could trust him... HIS OWN close friends have told me that he's an abuser & he's a cheater. My family doesn't agree with him either. What should I do?!!!? Should I just stop talking to this guy?
2007-02-16 02:17:11 · 7 answers · asked by madeline marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If his own close friends are talking that way about him then forget it. I don't know how young you are or how old he is....but find someone around your age please. Older men sometimes get a thrill over dating younger girls and do it just for the thrill and to show off to their buddies.
You need someone around your age with your level of experience so you don't get pressured into somethings your not ready for yet.
2007-02-16 02:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is relative to how old you are. if you are 10 and he's 20, its bad get out.....if your 40 and he's 50, so what?
He has a kid, are you ready to accept this kid as your own? It may be easier early on if the child lives with the mom and only sees Dad on the weekend, but eventually you will have to interact with this child. Just because he's cheated in the past doesn't mean he will cheat in the future, unfortunately it will be more likely and easier for him to do. If you want your family to like him you have to tell him that they don't like him and why, so that he can change (at least around them).
On a side note I don't like the sounds of "...he 'said' that he would wait for me but I don't know if I could trust him...", why is he waiting? If it is for you to be older and "legal", then I'd say you need to re-evaluate his attraction to you. Also, if you can't bring yourself to trust him then why even consider him?
2007-02-16 10:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U didnt say how old u r. Anyway, since ur family has an opinion concerning who u date and clearly disapprove of him I can guess that u r quite young.
I will say listen to them, this guy doent even have a good reputation. Dont think because u have those rushing feelings then he's d one... lie! Think about it dis way, if ur friend was hanging with this guy and u started hearing things about him like u've heard, would u still envy ur friend and like the guy any way? There u have ur answer. Wake up b4 something awful does d waking 4 u!
2007-02-16 10:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by giness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the age difference. If that many people are telling you this guy is no good then most likely he is. When i was 14 i was dating a 24yr old which i thought at the time there was nothing wrong with but now i look back on it there was something seriously wrong with that guy to want to be with someone so young little wrong. But if his friends are warning you of him that's scary honey, run a mile as much as you like him now that will one day go away might take a while but it will go away.
2007-02-16 10:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by kalihas_mum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK! First of all...how you are you and how old is he?
If he has a two year old son and isn't with the mother of his child...then maybe you should ask yourself why he isn't with her. Maybe he cheated on her...abused her or just don't want to be with her.
Go with your gut on this but I would look into it a long time before you jump into this.
2007-02-16 10:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a lot to loose in this situation,especially when you hear something bad about him from his friend,stay away from him before its too late, time is on your side don't rush your decision in picking him,there are some decent men around that you can pick without extra responsibility,be smart pick your man wisely nad make sure you wont regret your decision in the future
2007-02-16 10:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap, you're as wrong as wrong can be. He's obviously an adult. You obviously a minor. His friends have warned you. You're friends don't like it. You're family doesn't like it. Everyone seems to have more sense on this matter then you. You like this guy why?
2007-02-16 10:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋