A new salon opened up just beside my office, and I popped in there for a quick emergency haircut one day---well, I gotta tell ya, this girl gave me the best haircut I have ever had. I've been going to my regular hairdresser since the late eighties, and she's a friend, and I see her out and about town all the time. The new hairdresser is also a local girl who has kids in the same grades as mine, so I see her around too. I'd rather go to her, but I don't want to hurt my regular HD's feelings when she sees me. What to do??
2007-02-16 02:13:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
Ooh, cheating on the hairdresser, always a scary move. Well, here's the deal: a lot of women view their relationships with their haridressers as one of the most important interpersonal relationships in their lives (no joke, there was actually a study done!) It is primarily because women (and men too) associate their positive self-image with good grooming, and having a hairdresser that makes them feel beautiful is a boost to the psyche. Also, though, many women view their hairdressers as their confidantes, chatting and sharing personal info and secrets while they're in the salon chair. I know my mom and her hairdresser Kim have a lasting bond! : ) Anyway, though, because of all those emotional tie-ins, it is much harder to switch hairdressers than to switch phone services or plumbers or something like that. What you need to do is be honest with your old hairdresser- just say that this new salon is a lot more convenient for you and that you really feel it's time for a change. She will be hurt, of course, because she has known you for so long, but also because you are one of her regulars and she views you as lost revenue if you leave, but just like in romantic relationships, you can't just stay with someone to spare their feelings. You owe it to yourself to move on. If she doesn't take it well, there is a chance you'll get a lot of dirty looks and uncomfortable situations if you see each other often, but she has probably lost long-time customers before, and she'll get over it.
A parting thought- you obviously had it in mind to maybe change hairdressers, at least subconsciously, or else you never would have gone into the other salon for a quick "emergency haircut"- many women I know will wait with horrible-looking hair for weeks if it means keeping an appointment with their favorite stylist.
2007-02-16 02:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is never an easy thing to do. I've heard my mother and sister complain about it, and even I had to find a way to tell my hair braider that I'd decided to cut my hair off. So do what I did...buy her some flowers or something you know she really likes (my hair braider loves cheesecake), take a deep breath and tell her the news. You can tell her that the gift/flowers are for the whole salon (assuming you have a rapport with everyone in there) if you think that it would be too personal a gesture.
I wouldn't suggest telling her an outright white lie, as suggested by a poster above. Since you see her all the time that could come back to haunt you. Tell her the truth - or at least part of it. The new girl is right next door to your office and it's simply more convenient for you. No one can argue with that. You can even embellish the truth a little and tell her something like it also helps you to manage the kids better (e.g. it gives you more time to go pick them up from school during lunch/after work?). But again, no one can argue with convenience, because everyone likes to have it. Your regular HD's had a good run, but if she were in your shoes, she'd do the same. I hope this works out for you.
PS Stay in touch after you leave. Give her a call, or drop by the salon and visit her when you have time. It would be hard for her to harbor negative feelings for you if she sees that you still take interest in her life.
2007-02-16 02:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Coreydan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie! I would go to both...just alternate. Tell your original hairdresser that you go to the salon beside your work sometimes when you have a bad hairday and need a cut quick. I know, the hairdresser relationship is a weird one us girls have to deal with.
2007-02-16 02:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Presumably your old hairdresser is well established and won't go broke if she doesn't get your custom. So there's no problem there. What I suggest is that you tell your old hairdresser that an old friend of yours has just started up in business and needs encouragement and you are sure she won't mind if you help her get started. As we say in England "job jobbed"
2007-02-16 22:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by taxiburt 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are good friends with your original HD, than still stay friends with her. keep in touch. go to her for hair color if he is fabulous at that and not for your hair cut. tell her a little white lie that the other woman is more affordable because you are scrimping on cash at the moment. she'll hopefully understand.
2007-02-16 02:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always such a difficult situation, one I NEVER handle well.
If you have the guts- the best thing is just to be honest. If she's your friend as well and you see her about town, you should be honest and if she is a friend she will understand and still remain friends.
2007-02-16 02:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Autumn is often Autumn. it is basically that another Y!A's character's' perceptions of her have been colored via their very own preconceived notions of what to anticipate. i think it is what keeps existence exciting.
2016-10-02 05:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by mattsson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will have to do that pretty soon myself. We are moving. Just tell her your moving out of town.
2007-02-16 02:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
tell her you got some lice
2007-02-16 02:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋