I graduated from college this past Dec. & just found out that my stepdad gave my mom 2000.00 to give to me?

Question

I graduated from college this past Dec. & just found out that my stepdad gave my mom 2000.00 to give to me as a gift. My brother picked Mom up from the airport t when my Mom got here in the city they went straight to the casino and my mom blew all the money (my stepdad sent) the same day she arrived (which was a few days before my graduation). She told my brother that she felt bad & was going to give it back to me.She gave me a card with 40.00 in it from her and my step dad. Should I confront her and break the trust of my sibling who told me of should I tell my stepdad thanks for the 40.00?Or should I just leave it alone? What should I do? Please help:(

Answer 1

I think that this is something that you and your Mom need to talk about. Considering the occasion, I'm sure that she'll understand how you feel. I'm not trying to step on your Mom, and I apologize if I offend you in any way... I just think that if your Mom can blow your graduation money at the casino, then there is a big problem there. This wasn't just something that you got for washing someone's car, you graduated college, not may people do that. You deserve every reward you get, and for your Mom to do that to you, it's very disrespectful. Besides that, $2000.00 is a lot of money.

As for your brother, I think if you explained to him that this is a big problem and you and your Mom need to get this out of the water, he'd understand.

Answer 2

This is kind of a mess. Not really enough information..such as; whom told you that you were receiving $2,000.00? Also; until you actually receive such and have it in hand, for all intents and purposes it didn't exist. Surely the idea that you would receive such would get you excited, but, too often in life we learn that people fail us in many ways and many times, and maybe upon graduation this is a good time to learn this.

On the other hand; if your Step-Dad sent you the $2000.00 I wonder why it wasn't a joint gift to be from both your Mom and him? If she has a gambling problem or wanted to hit the Casino, she probably should have asked your S-D for the money and it would have also been better for them to send the money directly to you.

Otherwise; I wouldn't get angry if I were you. It would be a good subject to bring up later when you become more assertive. I can only assume that both your Mom and S-D have been supportive of you through college and that they have given you much along the way. Having a supportive family is priceless and the $2000.00 may seem significant, but, in the grand scheme of things, it's just a grain of sand on the beach. No use in creating a riff between your parents when it is on your Mom to straighten out her own misgivings. I'd just go merrily on my way with my degree if I were you and go make $200,000.00 !

Answer 3

Usually when problems like these happen... it is either...
1.) You are being tested... or...
2.) You are being tempted

So take for example you are being tested. If all kinds of tv cameras and book writers were recording EVERY thing you do... what will you do? The thing is... who is testing you? No one else but God. Just imagine... the KING OF THE UNIVERSE is giving you a test... will you do good in it or not? Just imagine an invisible camera recording everything you do to be showed to the whole world.

Now... what if it is that you are being tempted? Will you fall to it?

The best thing to do is to pray about it... and do not do anything bad. Remember... that money is a gift... it is a privilege and not a right. So just imagine if you go to your mom and sibling and tell them you don't trust them anymore... do you think God will be pleased with that?

God bless you ^.^. Go do the right thing :D.

Answer 4

The issue may seem that it is between you and your mother, but it's not. You should thank your father for sending you the money. It was very considerate of him. It is very unfortunate that your mother burned this significant amount of money up in a casino and aside from that, it wasn't hers to burn. This should be between your mother and your step dad. Your sibling maintained his loyalty to you. Do the same for him or you can tell your mother the truth. Your sibling was acting on integrity and honesty. Talk to him first about how he would feel if you confronted your mother. I don't think it would matter to him that his mother would not trust him if she is conducting herself without moral principle. On top of spending the money that was supposed to be for you, she lied through nondisclosure of what she had done. She betrayed you and lied to you. She took advantage of her BF's money and went against his wishes by placing personal convenience before her moral principles. Stay close to your brother and let your step dad deal with mother. Your mom has to make things right with you and it's not about money any more. It has everything to do with values and making amends.






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Answer 5

thank you call to your step dad thanking him for the $40 should clear things right up. You wont and should not expect to get the 2K but I don't think your mom will ever try to rip you off again. He may even say something to the effect of "$40 ??? i sent $2000!!" at that point you act confused and say "I don't understand pop the card only had $40 in it what could have happened?"

Answer 6

Thank your mom for the 40 bucks. That will give her a chance to explain or promise more. If that isn't satisfactory, then thank your step dad for te 40 bucks. He'll take it from there.

Answer 7

I agree with everyone that you should call your stepdad and tell him thank you for the gift of $40.00. That way it isn't you that has to confront anyone. Your stepdad should be the one to say something to her about the money. That was very selfish of your mother.

Answer 8

I would call my stepdad and say...thanks for the $40 gift card that you and my mom gave to me.
That was really pathetic that your mother stole that money from you. She only didn't break your trust and she broke her own husbands trust to.
I would confront my stepdad about it and see what he says.
Ten to one he thinks that she gave it to you.

Answer 9

How immature of your mother. That money was to go to you to help with your schooling expenses. You should definitely bring it up. Sounds like your mom has a gambling problem.

Answer 10

By all means, ask her about it. Your sibling will just have to realize that keeping a secret like that is just as bad as if he spent the money himself.