PLEASE SOMEONE READ!! I need relationship help! pleaseee?

Question

OKay I recently got out of a 9 month relationship

my first everything and I was his.

we've been fighting constantly this past 2 months and we broke on the 10th. we played the bff role for two days.

he came back form theraphy because he's an emotional wreck and called me on monday saying he doesnt even wanna be friends
because he still loves me, he is attracted to me, and will be jealous, and he says he thinks we'll back together and history will repeat it self







PROBLEM: HE TOLD ME NOT TO CALL HIM TILL NEXT WEEK. it's been 4 days and im going INSANE! should i seriously wait till the week and call him? and if i do what do i say to him when the week kis up?

Answer 1

Ok you are going through and relationship dry spell..........It's not always a walk in the park in a relationship but you should wait because I can be helpful to your relationship with him because maybe you two need space and it's just a week after that you two would want each other even more and everything would be back on track

Answer 2

Respect him if you truly love him. You can't force a man to do anything. Believe me. Although, I travelled 2000 miles to see him and that did the trick. lol Seriously though, if fighting is the issue, you need to find out what it was you were fighting about. If it were little insignificant things, then learn to let them blow over. If you two can't get back together then learn from the mistakes in the past and whoever you are with next, it will be a lot better. I know you are probably scared right now. I almost lost my love of 3 years a while ago due to my own fault. But if you can respect him and wait until one week, it will give him time to think and possibly even come around. You should let him call you though. It would be for the best. Trust me on this. If you need to talk, I'll be here.

Answer 3

Well the back from therapy thing should send up a red flag.
He thinks you will be back together and history will repeat itself.
You were fighting constantly for two months, is that the history he was referring to ? Did you like constantly fighting ? If so call him now why wait, get the fighting started. If you don't like fighting never call him and don't answer his calls. I'm sure you can do better if you look. But some people love there misery, when you tell them to leave an abusive relationship they say " after all Ive suffered ? " Get a grip...get a life.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

Sounds as though therapy did him some good in that he now knows that you and he cannot be friends while one or the other is still attracted to the other. Really it is best to let him go completely and try to get yourself healed and past this. I know that it is extra hard seeing that this your first everything, but it will be better in the end. When a romantic relationship is over, yet you still care for the person it is hard to tell if those feelings are just caring about the person or loving the person. You will always care about this person and your heart will probably jump every time you see him, but ending a relationship is better done like taking off a band-aid, just jerk it off and deal with the pain it is over allot quicker than peeling it off a little at a time.

Answer 5

Umm.. Girl it sounds like your both in love with each other still if thats the case why are yall fighting all the time. I respect his decision not to make contact with you. He's trying to get over you because you make him an emotional wreck. If you're really going INSANE without him then give him a call. Don't think about what to say just be honest with him. It's so much easier when both parties are completely honest with one another. If yall can't live apart from one another then you have to figure out what's causing all of the problems. You both have to work together to stay together. If the fighting continues then you just have to suck it up and deal with leaving him alone because it's not going to help his emotional situation if you continue to try to make contact with him. Anyways good luck to you.

Answer 6

You broke up - right? THEN LET IT GO!!!!! Holy crap! It's done. It's over. Stop playing that bull of "let's be friends" - if you couldn't be friends before - you won't now! Best thing to do - put time and distance between you - and after a few months - if you still feel the need to hang on to something that's over - still don't call. Look, he sounds like a mess - don't call him til next week? What's up with that??? What's going to be so different about how he feels next week? Nothing! It's just 7 extra days til you both have an uncomfortable conversation with one another. Let it go - wait til you run into him - years from now - then be friends.

Answer 7

Give him time. It can be difficult, but it is the best thing. If he is truly trying to pull his life back together in therapy, then he probably has to patch up more than just your relationship. It also will take him time to know what to say or do. Wait the week and then start slow, like when you first met. Try to get to know him again and let him know you are there to support him. If he still doesn't want a relationship, then at least you can part on decent terms.

Answer 8

NOT calling him will be best for the both of you. I went throught the same EXACT thing, he told me not to call him, or talk to him for awhile. And I HATED him for it, I thought he was crazy for just blowing me completely off, but it ended up being for the best. Just respect the fact that he needs time (im sure you'll find out you do too) and give it to him. It's absolutely NOT a good idea to be friends before you both are healed...it will just create worse problems, he's right when he said that he couldnt be friends because he'd get jealous etc. Be patient...things will happen with time. In the mean time, dont just sit and home and be bored you'll think about it(him) even more, which is NOT good. Good luck dear! Hope it all works out in your favor!

Answer 9

ok it looks like you still love him and it is obvious he still likes you. I would call him and try to patch things up and work on communicating better with each other so you are not fighting as much. Think back to all the fights you had and what happened to make start fighting in the first place. Try to work on it so it doesnt get into a situation where it escalates into an arguement. hope this helps.

Answer 10

i had the same problem with my ex-boyfriend... we were on and off for four years it was hard to let go to someone who was your first everything, but you have to do what you feel is right at the moment because eventually you will be back at the place you are now... we've been apart for a year now... and im happy with my life now although i dont have anyone new... so just think about what you should do the next few days... and don't call him at all.. give him his space and see if he decides to call you instead... good luck!