My boyfriend & I had an argument last night. We were talking on the phone & he told me that he'd call me back in 1 second. 40 minutes past & I called him back just to see if he was still going to come back. He refused to answer my question & told me that he'd call me back. 30 more minutes past & I called again to ask him if he was still going to come by or not & he said why can't you just wait, I told you I'll call you back, y don't u understand. I told him I didn't understand y he couldn't answer my question, then he hung up on me. He showed up at my place an hour after that call & he went & he walked in without saying a word to me & went to sleep on the couch. He said he didn't want to sleep in the bed with me because I was hard headed & he asked me why I just couldn't wait. Was I wrong to want to know if he was coming or not so I'd know how to plan my evening & y couldn't he just answer the question? He never said anything & just showed up. Was I wrong?
2007-02-16 01:53:33 · 14 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were both wrong: He should have answered your question and you should havs believed he would call you back and you should not have called so many times because he said he would call you. So forgive and forget and kiss and make up before it gets worse....
2007-02-16 02:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the reasons my ex and I broke up. He couldn't understand this either. They both must have forgot all about the word "worry". I'm the type of person, if you tell me you're going to do something, you need to do it and if you're not, I need to know you're not. My ex would call me at 2 and say he'll be over at 6. Time will go by and it's 9. I'll call to see where he is and he's sleep. That pissed me off. He could have called and said he was taking a nap. I was worried as hell and when he told me what he told me, it went from worried to downright pissed off. i feel exactly where you are coming from. You were not wrong at all. He should be understanding enough to know that a good amount of time had went by and that's why you called to see what was the deal. Men, I swear.
2007-02-16 10:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Nana♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were both wrong. If he said he would call you back and he doesnt (then obviously he had something better to do at that moment) You keep calling him and thats going to run him away. You should be independent enough to not want to be up under him constantly. You should want someone to come visit you when they want to come if you just pressure him then either he will eventually stop coming at all or come over pissed off. Why sweat him, its like your trying to prevent him from doing something. He is who he is you cant change him. If he wants to do something he's going to do something. And you seem awful needy. He was wrong for snapping on you. but then again cause and effect. you were pestering him and he snapped. If you want to be with him for a long time is suggest you get some friends so you have a seperate life from your bf. Because you see he might not be doing anything now (cheating) but if he does it will be your fault. I see him cheating in the future if you dont change your ways. Dont smother him.
2007-02-16 10:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by FauxDr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sounds like a control issue,Shows up unannounced sleeps on couch.Not in your bed.Know who louses ,In an dispute never bring the bedroom or sex into it as that is personal that become the focus of everything.
Your up set confused,Annoyed. Here is a growing up immature problem you have to deal with.Respect issue between you guys, This is going to be a problem.
Next time find someone older & mature that dosen't act like a child. Sorry you had to sleep alone for him to prove a point.He will lose in the end????
2007-02-16 10:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to get upset- he was being disrespectful to you by hanging up and not giving you a straight answer. Sounds like he was acting shady- do you know what he was doing? Why would he just sleep on the couch? Why even come over if he's going to do that.
He needs to be honest and tell you what the heck he was doing!!
2007-02-16 10:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child dont think you were wrong in my opinion you had every right to call him see thats how men are these days the same thing happens to me and they get mad wen i call then back and say i told u I would call you back...but in my opinion it sounded like someone was over there with him and he didnt want to answer your question and dats y he wouldnt sleep in da bed with you and he was tired...if ne one knows i do dat man was with some lil' hoochie and they did some things dat made him tired if you know wat i mean!!!
2007-02-16 10:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong to want to know if he was coming over...but he apparently felt that you were being a bit demanding by calling him several times.
2007-02-16 09:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have answered your ? or you could have not called him repeatedly when he said he'd call you back. either of the two could have prevented this "fight". so which option was within your control?
thats how it went wrong...
2007-02-16 10:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by r_y_s_s_a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, u were not wrong. but maybe he was just a bit upset that u probrably ruined some kind of surprise he had planned for you.
2007-02-16 09:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by evanescent_eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he had other stuff going on but dont worry about it you know how guys are.
2007-02-16 09:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by la loca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋