my ex wants me back, he has hurt me quite badly, were together 3 yrs, had a house, and have now been split up 3 mionths, i am now seeing someone who is a lovelly and treats me sooo nice, but i dont fancy him like i do my ex! my heart belongs to my ex but my head says he'l hurt you again and to not go back!!
what do you follow??
by the way he left me, then tried to get back with me, wen i agreed he the stopped txting me and went all distant again and now he saying he had need space to ensure its what he wanted and now has had that space he knows its me he wants
2007-02-16 01:40:55 · 19 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i follow both as they are usually going in the same direction !
2007-02-16 01:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you could go back when he's left you before? You'll always worry about it and never feel the kind of security a person should in a relationship. I could be wrong and if I am, by all means do try again if that's what you want.
It also does seem like you probably aren't ready for this new guy you're seeing. If he's someone you could plausibly see yourself with than I'd tell him you aren't really ready for him as your not totally over your ex and you'd rather give him a proper go when you are. Stay friends.
If you can't see that happening let this run it's course and see where it goes but it sounds a lot like a re-bound type story, and how often do those work?
2007-02-16 10:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Limsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your head. It is not a good idea to go back with someone once you have split especially if they have hurt you in the past. Remember that leopards never change there spots. The guy you are with now may not be as lively as your ex but at least he knows how to treat you. And if he isn't right for you then their is someone else out there who is better than the ex. Follow your head it is usually right.
2007-02-16 09:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just think you should leave things with him he hurt you then he asked you back then he went all distant again??? i mean c'mon don't let men treat u like that btw, i split with my ex 4 months ago we was together 5 years and now he texting and asking for me back and he was the 1 who hurt me well i just am not taking him back friends is good nothing else for me we nneed to stop letting these men walk all over us btw i am 20 yrs old so i was only young when we was together at first i was shocked because we had a flat together but now i am the 1 who can hold my chin up high and think i have done nothing wrong i am glad to be free and single and quite honestly i think if u don't fancy the man ur with now then finish it and be single its alot more fun no men tht are moaning and askin u who ur talking to its great!!! well that is my veiw on that i hope you make the right choice! xxx
2007-02-16 10:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by vicsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel love but you got to follow your head here unfortunately as your ex is really messing you about and you deserve better. I had the same experience some years ago and went out with a lovely guy for a while but try as I might I couldnt fancy him like I did my ex. The realtionship ran its course and it did help me see that I deserved better treatment than my ex gave me. It wont be easy but in time you'll really understand you're better off without him.
All the best x
2007-02-16 09:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were with him he took you for granted. Now you're gone he realises what he lost. The thing is, he will soon take you for granted again. On this occasion I'd follow my head. Your heart can make you want something that's only going to end up hurting you in the end. You have a good guy now, so try and make it work with him. You'll soon see why you didn't go back to your ex and you will be glad, trust me.
2007-02-16 09:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one to answer only you can decide what to do but you say you been back together twice and things still are not OK i think you should be single for a while sort out what you want, need etc but your head tends to rule your heart and we all make mistakes not easy either just having valentines day and you tend to see all around you loved up you also don't say how old you are this can make a difference when you are older you don't tend to give a **** but i hope everything works out for the best for you believe me we all been in your position at some time or another good luck Hun !!!!!
2007-02-16 09:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definately follow your head in this case. He's hurt you badly in the past, do you honestly think he has changed. Does he know you are seeing someone else, If so, he may only want you because you are seeing someone else.
You have met a nice guy who treats you good, you don't have to fancy him. Even if things don't work out between you, there's always that chance of finding someone even better.
2007-02-16 09:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by thepurestone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, I bet he does, i think he just dosent want you to have anyone else. Go with your head, your heart will only be broken again. Give your new boyfriend a chance you may be surprised. A piece of your heart may always belong to your ex because you never forget your first love. But you have had your heart broken a couple of times with your ex, and he will do it again. Good Luck to you.
2007-02-16 09:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your head. If he really is sorry and really wants you back and for things to work out he'll still be there in months to come. Do the same as him and get some space and perspective and if your heart still tells you to go back to him in a while, then do it!
2007-02-16 10:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by kittenwhiskers456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋