I'm 25 & he is 23.His parents are not accepting this & they have told that, they can never accept me.We met each other in our last company.He was desperate for me & took the first initiative.As my parents would never accept him,I was not ready to accept him & I told him everything on his face.But he was so determined & was able to convince me.Both of us were ready to go against our family.Things were going fine.At that time,he was not emotionally very much attached to his family,but now he has started feeling his responsibility towards his parents,being the elder son.He has engaged himself in the family affairs & his mom tries to convince him emotionally.Sometimes he gets convinced & has told me that, he can't marry me without their approval & blessings.Still he is trying to convince them,he needs some time,but I'm pretty sure that, this is not gonna melt the ice.I don't wanna lose him.But I know, he is not gonna do anything going against them which he has told me very clearly.Advise.
2007-02-16 01:39:32 · 12 answers · asked by ani d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It seems that neither of you is really at a place in your life to be in this relationship. It could be that the timing is not right. This does not mean that you need to say goodbye forever but it definitely means that the two of you need to take some time apart to sort yourselves out.
Are you finished your schooling? What are you doing to make a better life for yourself on your own? Both of you should strike out on your own to see what the world has to offer. Travel, education, new friends... You will both know when you are ready to resume this.
2007-02-16 01:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by NolaD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, your man will choose you over his parents in a second. In marriage, your spouse should always be your most important familial relationship.
However, it doesn't sound like this guy is ready for this. Also, even if he does go against his parent's wishes and marries you, you will have to live with his mother constantly trying to come between you. Is that the life you want?
2007-02-16 02:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think You Both Are Grown Up Now And Both You And His Parents Should Set Aside Their Feelings And Let You And Him Go And Be Happy For Both Of You.
2007-02-18 12:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young - let it go. It sounds like you both like drama - and it's the only thing keeping you together. And if you think you're having problems with the family now - stay together and it's only going to get worse. This isn't a movie or a TV show - in real life - "you're love for each other" will not change anyone...let it go.
2007-02-16 01:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweetfancymoses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has told you very clearly that he will not go against his parent's wishes? What are you not getting? You will be greatly resented by the family if you stay, and you will resent your future husband for not standing up for you. The only advice one could give in this situation, is for you to move on, fast.
2007-02-16 04:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by velvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people in here still write with crayons. Who else would believe that this is the whole story?
2007-02-16 02:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by The man in the back 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R u my girl friend. i am I'm the same position i cant let loose my girl nor my parents.
Simple but too difficult . No 0NE can answer this. as no on as answered mine for last 2 years.
2007-02-16 01:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Patty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good you people love each other ......if he really loves u he will marry u or else u will cry for max 3 days and after u will marry some one and u will be happy .........
don't ever say films dialog's like without him u cannot survive ......for three days u will think and after wards u will be happy
2007-02-16 07:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by fam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go all the way with him so hes more determined,lol
2007-02-16 09:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them
2007-02-16 01:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋