I have heard men conversation that there in a commited relationship and they will wait for there girlfriend because they love her and wouldn't leave her. But because they want the physical sex they use other woman. Is that right? If I hold back sex before I fall in love will the guy I date have sex elsewhere but still want to be with me lovely. Or would most men wait.
2007-02-16 01:32:33 · 13 answers · asked by tannya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would like to think that he wouldnt go elsewhere.
How long do you think he will have to wait until you love him, I know that this sounds like a stupi question, but if he withinks that he is going to be waiting forever or that it may not happen at all then he may not stay with you. It is sad but it is true.
Personally I do not wait until I am in love...i know this sounds horrible but it is often through the intimacy of having sex that the love really blossoms and I think I may actully find it hard to love someone if we do not know what we connect like intimately.
I think you are noble and have a stronger will than me. Who knows your boyfrind may too, but you need to ask him. If you want to have a good relationship with him then you should be able to ask him this stuff.
Also you can try doing stuff with him without going to whole way. This might be a good compromise.
2007-02-16 01:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man can't be committed to you and only you then he isn't worth investing in a relationship. If he loves you then he will wait until the end of time. Sex isn't an urge a man can't control and if he tells you he cant control his sexual urges then there is a much bigger problem than just being faithful. Hold out for the man that will respect your wishes and even stay abstinent along with you. It will make your first time together that much more special. There are good men out there that wont pressure you to have sex.
2007-02-16 01:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by taraezra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you may have to find someone that feels the same way about it that you do. I had the same problem with guys wanting to have sex and I wanted to wait. I actually stop committing for a while. I had friends but not "a boyfriend." About a year ago, I found my true prince. He is wonderful. I finally found someone that knows that sex isn't everything. I really just wanted to actually be in love before making love.
If the guy is only waiting because u want him to then YES I think that he will go and get it from someone one else.
If he's waiting because he wants to then he's all yours.
2007-02-16 01:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men would not wait, there are maybe a handful that might wait on you. It is right for you to do what you feel, so if you want to wait than that is your decision. I find that very admirable. I waited for over a year on my girlfriend to have sex with, and now we have been married for over 12 years. I just knew I loved her and would have waited no matter how long it was, but I know by my friends that is not the case with most guys. Good luck to you.
2007-02-16 01:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by spindizz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will go elsewhere. If he doesn't, then you are in trouble, because men who don't care about sex will not make you happy when you finally do get into a relationship.
And, when a man gets in the habit of having a relationship with you but sex with other women, he will still do it when you are married.
2007-02-16 01:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, having sex with another woman is not right. Except if you allow him to do so, but even then you should not allow him. In other words if you are not in this relationship for sex alone, he should wait for you or go to someone else. You have also a syntax problem. I could hardly understand you!
2007-02-16 01:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by filip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
roflmao...when a man wants sex he will usually get it where he can...sometimes even if he is getting from his girlfriend he will get it elsewhere also
If you don't want sex before you are committed, way cool...but don't blind yourself thinking he is doing the same unless he is a very special man (and there are some of those still left out there)
women can be the same way too
be cool...
2007-02-16 01:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah some man can wait like me i am still a virgan i had a lot of girlfirend back in the day i did not have sex with one of them i can wait
2007-02-16 01:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true man can wait until marriage.
2007-02-16 01:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man worth being with will wait until you're ready.
2007-02-16 01:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋