im 17 right now i turn 18 in august Im friends with this guy who is older then me. Hes a really sweet person and he told me he liked me and I like him too and I known him fora while and I know he wouldnt do anything to ever hurt me, i know some people on here might not think its right for a guy to like me thats older but i dont see anything wrong in that, hes more like a best friend to me and thats how we are...good friends that like each other. is it wrong just to be friends, i dont think it is
2007-02-16 01:32:01 · 33 answers · asked by Dia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not right*
2007-02-16 01:32:36 · update #1
i think its ALLRIGHT.but i dont think i should give you any advice because i like someone who is 30 years older than me!!!(he doesnt even know that i exist)anyway,whatever you decide have funn;)
p.s.i'm 14
2007-02-16 01:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by greentea 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like you already have your mind made up. But if you'll listen to some advice it might help. It's okay for you guys to be friends but he is 12 years older than you. I think it would be wrong if there were anything beyond a friendship between you two. It sounds a little bit creepy that a 29 year old guy if falling for a 17 year old girl. Can't he find someone his own age? I suggest that you don't do anything with this guy but be friends, you don't want to get hurt
2007-02-16 01:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by snow girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think of him as an older brother and he you a younger sister fine but any other thing wait til August dear.
Bottom line: It is always good to be 18 or older in May to December romances. Another thing is why would a 29 year old want to hang out with someone so young that could be a real lacking individual there.
2007-02-16 01:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think it is wrong, but you should be very careful about your relationship with this guy. I am 8 years older than my wife and we have a wonderful relationship, we have been together for 12 years now and never even had a fight. If you truly like this guy and he likes you just take things slow and don't get into any kind of rush. Just be aware that most people will frown upon the fact that he is older than you and might give you a hard time. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-16 01:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by spindizz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break your heart dear but any 29 year old man that would let things escalate with a 17 year old girl is not a nice guy. Your relationship is illegal and this guy is pedophile... whether he knows it or not. Even after you are legal you need to understand that you are both in totally different places in your lives. Find a nice guy closer to your age. If you want to have something with him wait until august. but this won't last forever. Always remember that guys that like younger girls will always like younger girls... so once you aren't young anymore chances are he will be looking for a new 17-18 year old... and when you are 25 do you really want a guy pushing 40? Best of luck to you.
2007-02-16 01:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by emce 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda scary that a 29 almost 30 year old MAN would be hanging out with a 17 year old and even more frightening that he likes you. I don't even condone the fact that hanging out "just as friends",and I don't believe your parents would either.It's NOT o.k. and very upsetting to me as a parent of a child your age. Act your age! Your not even ready for a friendship with someone over the age of 21 at the least,if your running in this kinda of circle{29},there has to be some serious issues at home or something.
2007-02-16 03:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sidetracked0260 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are just friends there is no harm in that. However; it's when the relationship changes to something more that it becomes an issue. If you were 27 and he were 39 it wouldn't matter because humans mature alot in their 20s. Since you are still a teenager you are more vulnerable and naive than you would be 10 years from now. It is possible that he loves you for who you are, but more than likely his intentions are more of a sexual nature. Teenagers are more likely to believe that someone's intentions are genuine. I would proceed with caution.
2007-02-16 01:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are just friends, there is nothing wrong with it. If you like him as more, there is still nothing wrong with it. The problems only arise if the two of you decide to act on it too quickly. Wait some time. You will be eighteen soon enough and if he likes you, he will wait. More over, if you do not wait, it come cause legal problems for him.
2007-02-16 01:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy 36 who dated a 22 year old... you got to think of the maturity level here.. you are into 2 different parts of life. if you can work with it then thats great.. if not then move on... but try it, you may get along well.
2007-02-16 01:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, try dating somone a little closer to your age. I have been through this before, though this is not the same situation your best bet is to forget about it. True you're going to do what you like but think about what you have in common ex: hobbies, music, kinds of friends, life goals, career goal, acheivements so far, kids (do either of you have any?), Marriage (was he married / is he married), parental relationship.
In the end i's up to you to decide...good luck!
2007-02-16 01:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Shanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not particularly. You have a lot yet to experience - By hanging out with a much older guy, you're practically missing 10 years of your life. Of course, if you can't stand being away from him, then go for it, but ideally...hang around with people your own age. It's natural. :)
2007-02-16 01:36:07 · answer #11 · answered by Aidan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋