my father died of cancer a year ago and still get the feeling the doctors sedated him too much?

Question

they said it was terminal illness but I think they could have him alive for longer, what do you think?it was lung cancer

Answer 1

My father died in 1970 of cancer. I was 5 but my older sisters were there with him (mom had come home to check on me). The nurse came in and gave him some morphine. It wasn't working very well. The doctor came in about 30 minutes later and gave him another shot of morphine. With my sisters right there....my father just stop breathing.

God bless that doctor!

Think about this. It's normal for us to not want them to die and to stay with us. But that's not thinking about them and their PAIN. If he was given too much pain medicine by the doctor, well.....God bless him, too. Your father is no longer suffering. I've had breast cancer. If the cancer ever comes back, I pray someone would be so kind to me.

Answer 2

irst of all I'm so sorry for your lost and my deep concern about your Father's illness. My Father died in cancer His 39 yrs old, He's too young to die, and leave His wife, and with 10 children. Imagine we'll all go through rough, unbearable, loosing own Family member which cann't replace to another. Pls. don't have a bad feelings about Dr's, sedated Drug Him and couldn't cure Him and let Him live longer. Cancer is one of the serious, dangerous, still not able to find a cure, painful decease. If a patient got Treatement early before too late, then I'll assure Patient could survive in longer. but. still Nobody knows, How long it will last.? Lung Cancer usually, normally cause by smocking,Second-hand Smocking, Bad-enviorenment, or even a healthy person could get ,effect virus. If you want have a Peace of mind, remember your Father daily- pray, be with your Family, follow what Father taught you, and to make him proud you can be a Dr. to treat, save other Cancer patients,take fully responsibility that your'e going to take care of Family and Love each other. Lung Cancer is a terminal illness, and it's become weaker and weaker. Cancer desease come from inside, it's a small kind of deasese and it's spread all over the body. You believe god and he will srengthen you to overcome and to be a good person to Love your self, and rest.

Answer 3

I've had the unfortunate experience to both nurse patients and lose a relative to lung cancer. The pain can reach a point where the only option is to either administer the heavy duty opiate pain relief, or let them suffer in agony. It's tough being the one by the bedside, in this case, I know. The medication will ease the pain, but it will also make them sleep and it does slow the breathing rate. Even with the slower breathing rate, I can't say I believe it really ever made a big difference in how much longer a person lived at that point. At least not enough that I would have felt comfortable withholding the pain relief. While it might have bought them a few more hours of life, even if you had told me it bought them a day or more, it would have meant spending that time in pain and sometimes agony. I can't in good conscience say I would want that for myself, little alone require it from somebody else. I've never met a medical professional who was in a hurry to rush anyone's death, although they might have wished it for the patient's sake, they would never have done anything intentionally to hasten the end of somebody's life. I'm sorry you lost your father to lung cancer. It is never easy to tell a parent goodbye, no matter what the circumstances. You will always naturally wish for more time. But if your father was able to make his goodbyes and die in peace and relative comfort, then he had a good death. One year on, you still miss him, which is a testament to a good life well lived. I'm sure you would not have wanted him to suffer just for the sake of spending a few more minutes, hours or even a day longer with you. Instead of agonizing over the end, find ways to celebrate and remember the man who was. Look for a way you can come to peace with your loss, and learn to let go of wishing for what might have been or might not have been.

Answer 4

Lung cancer is one of the most horrible ways to die. You are constantly gasping for breath and if the cancer has metastasized, the pain is unbearable. Most terminal patients are sedated with pain meds to make their last moments tolerable. I definitely would not want the end process of lung cancer prolonged.

Answer 5

They use sedation to keep him in much less pain near the end. The sedation did not kill him it merely kept him comfortable so he could die with dignity and not in pain . Would have rather he died a day later or so but in pain and restlessness? Most likely your answer is know. Pain meds and antianxiety drugs do not hasten death but just make it more comfortable for the patient. May your dad rest in peace knowing he died more comfortable because of medications.

Answer 6

If they sedated him, you should be grateful to them. I am sure they did not give him a lethal dose, and it saved him a great deal of suffering, or did you enjoy watching him in pain?

Answer 7

After watching someone die that was not , be thankful. I will never get the image of my fathers awful death out of my mind.

Answer 8

you should be grateful to the doctor for gving him enough
medication to die without too much pain and dignity.