My boyfriend is 19 years old. It's not the first time this has happened to him. He stole his IRS tax refund, and his previous paychecks before him. His father has stolen cash out of his wallet from him, and deems it nessicary due to him paying his tuition for high school. (It's his last year. Please no harsh words about that.) He works his butt off and he deserves his money, but his dad is so threatening, he's afraid to challange him. (Believe me, he's violent.) He does it all when he is asleep. What can he do? Is there any legal protection or anything that he could do? We live in Illinois.
2007-02-16 01:22:20 · 21 answers · asked by Mynx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, there is. Stealing is against the law in any state. Your boyfriend can make a police report, and have his father prosecuted. Dad doesn't have the legal right to steal his money, no matter what! Your boyfriend must take legal action against his father, or this will never stop. As for the father being violent, he can prosecute if his father so much as hits him. Your boyfriend needs to move out, as soon as possible!
2007-02-16 01:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could file criminal charges against he father for forgery/fraud and ask for a restraining order, but if he also needs to have an exit strategy as he will have to move out of his Dad's house. To get the money back, he could sue in Small Claims Court without a lawyer, but he would need to get a copy of the cashed checks from his employer and the IRS and sue not only the Dad, but the institution that accepted the forged checks as they are liable also.
If he is not ready to or does not want to do the above, the only thing he can do is set up all of his paycheck to either be directly deposited or deposit all checks in to a bank account his father knows nothing about and never, ever keep any cash in the house and leave his ATM card with you or a friend.
You don't say anything about his Mother...if she is in the picture he should talk to her to see if she would intercede on his behalf.
2007-02-16 09:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your boyfriend's employer offer direct deposit - where they automatically deposit a paycheck into your bank account. A person's bank account is sacred so his father should not be able to take anything from that, or he could deposit the check before coming home, you can do it thru ATM's if the bank isn't open. His father also is committing fraud if he signs his son's name to the check to cash it. If your boyfriend is signing the check before depositing it that just plain foolish. Does your boyfriend have any other living arrangements that could be made while he finishes his last year of school? He could also talk to the school guidance office for advice. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-16 09:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His dad can not legally do this.
your boyfriend should by now have a checking account in his name only, in a bank his father does not use.
see if the place where he works will do a direct deposit for him.
then get a bank card from the new bank and do not carry cash,
to cash his sons paycheck he would have to forge his sons signature on the back and put his own on there as well so go the the cops if you have the balls and have him arrested for theft.
2007-02-16 09:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless your bf is willing to report his father to the police and file a complaint, there isn't much he can do legally.
If his father forged his IRS refund, that's a Federal offense!
But if his father is stealing cash, then tell your bf not to keep any cash on him! Put the cash in the bank and use a Debit Card for all purchases.
2007-02-16 09:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not going to be able to do anything legally unless he is willing to press charges. I do not think that is going to go over well since he lives with his dad. I would tell your boyfriend to get a safety deposit box at the bank and put all things of value there for safe keeping. I would also suggest that since he is 19 it is in his best interest to move out.
2007-02-16 10:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your boyfriend needs to tell his father that he is to pay him back for all the stolen checks, money or he will file charges. He needs to go to the police if dad doesn't cooperate with the pay back. Tell your boyfriend to lock his wallet in the glove box of his car or to sleep with his cash. Another alternative is for your boyfriend to rent a post office box and have all his mail delivered there (about 75.00 a year) or to give you his cash so that daddy can't get to it. I feel bad for your boyfriend, his dad is an A_ _ .
I would be so......saving my money to MOVE OUT!
2007-02-16 09:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's gotta move out thats all tell him to get a roomate. The father could say its for rent. If he's 19 he's gotta just go. If he has proof he could probably take him to small claims court and win. Plus the father shouldnt be able to cash those checks he coud get in trouble for fraud
2007-02-16 09:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg was a nightmare!
i think his dad needs to be confronted...NOW! make sure your boyfriend has an emergency plan if things go bad( gets kicked out,things get violent) NO ONE should have to put up with that kind of nonsense.
does the man have an addiction problem? this sounds like some very unhealthy stuff...there is some insanity that is motivating such behavior toward his own son.
take care
2007-02-16 09:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 19 years old, he can take legal action, it's the same as stealing, doesn't matter if it's his dad or not.
If this is really a problem for your boyfriend as it sounds then i'm sure he knows that he can do something about this.
2007-02-16 09:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by BiHgirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋