I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months ( we have been good friends for 4 years) Im 30, hes 25. I love him a lot but I am going through this 'smothering' phase. I cant stand to be touched,hugged,kissed ect... all the time. I need some personal space. Is this so wrong, does this mean that I will probably break up with him soon? I havent been in a relationship for a long time so I was by myself for a long time. Will he ever understand?
2007-02-16 01:21:36 · 13 answers · asked by metallica_rocks0122 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You both need seperate lives to enjoy sharing your lives with one another....it is all about balance. You need to tell him this... Couples go through this all the time, it is pretty normal, but to stand up and call this out is more loving than simply sitting and taking it. Tell him that you just need a little more space to be with yourself - that you don't want to get lost in the relationship - and encourage him to do the same. Be reasuring about the relationship though, and see what happens.
2007-02-16 01:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by findingselflove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not so to ensure that he does explain it to him. But be sure to tell him you still love him and that there is no one else because he might believe that if you tell him about what you are going through. I do not think it was because you were by your self for so long why you do not like it. Do some self searching today and find out the real problem and tell it to him. You two have been together for 7 months so it will be devastating to hear this coming form you after this time. It may not cause it to end but it might creater some distance between you because he is going to begin to wonder if he has been wasting his time in the relationship, so be sure of your next move before you make it.... Good luck
2007-02-16 09:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Alise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact is, he is 5 years younger and relationships are much more physical at that age. You are probably not going to last long term because physical is an important aspect of any relationship, it just sounds like you two are in two separate points in your relationship maturity right now.
2007-02-16 09:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's too clingy and is smothering you. You need to have some time to yourself, not necessarily break up, but go out and do some things on your own with friends. And it sounds like you are comfortable within your own skin and you don't "Need" him to make you happy.
2007-02-16 09:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it's not him that makes you feel you don't want to be touched all the time, then just explain how you feel if this relationship is going to last then you have to have good communication. Good luck
2007-02-16 09:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong...some people need more affection than others. Others feel the need to give affection constantly. It doesn't mean that you will break up, but it definitely sounds like you have different needs. If he loves you he will try to understand.
2007-02-16 09:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're maybe always around him and you need sometime alone. It doesn't mean you're gonna break up with him, unless you don't like him anymore. Tell him you want some space, be truthful and he will understand, but it doesn't mean you will break up with him. You just need some time alone, you know what i'm sayin??
2007-02-16 09:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Fairytale * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No,maybe,no//////trust me this is some what a normal thing. I've found that a women makes many changes in her life at the age of 30, At least my did.
2007-02-16 09:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by russell c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to explaine how you feel...He might not take it well..Let him know that we all need a lil bit of space to breath.
2007-02-16 09:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like i say to everyone else, if you sit down and tell him face to face EXACTLY what your heart is saying he will for sure understand. And if he doesnt then do not waste your time.
good luck!
2007-02-16 09:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋