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It is said time and again that look for happiness within.
But practically speaking, why do people end up having control of our happiness?(Rather we end up giving it in their hands often)
And then when they donot reciprocate in a certain manner , we end up feeling bad and sad.
Why ?
Why does logic not reign over our emotions?
Why does the thinking-by-heart, take over ,thinking by the logical mind?
Why are we not always able to stick to being practical and logical?

2007-02-16 01:16:40 · 4 answers · asked by mari 2 in Health Mental Health

4 answers

Took me the better part of the last thirty years to realize it, however, logic doesn't have a large part of it. It's self worth.

For the longest time I didn't have enough self-worth to be responsible for my own emotional state so I gave that power away and usually - for a time - I was rewarded by that person making me feel great. Then that responsibility becomes exhausting for the other person, over time, and they become less and less willing and/or inclined to be responsible for my emotional state 100% of the time and they "let me down".

Rather than trying to force logic to being responsible for your emotional state, which by it's very nature will also continue to let you down, emotions are not logical. Consider what it would take for you to feel good enough about your self to be worth making yourself feel good whenever you'd like to.

A really good proof that emotions are not logical are those wonderful, glorious huge fat ladies that walk into a club and immediately think they're the hottest piece of a!@ in the place. Logically there's no way that makes sense, but emotionally they have all the self love and self worth they need to make it real.

2007-02-16 01:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 0 0

man is a social animal.that's why we depend on others for most of the things.we just can't live alone and need others to be around us. just being with them is not enough again we need the love, support, assurance from them.when we achieve something in life we r satisfied but we r overwhelmed when others recognise and praise us .that's how it works. only the sad part is those who can make us happy can makes us sad also.

2007-02-16 09:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by tina 3 · 0 0

That's a lot of questions. I'll answer your first one.

People tend to make others the source of their happiness because then when we aren't happy (because sometimes people get sad) then we have someone else to blame.

If people really held themselves accountable for their own happiness, then it would stand to reason when they do become eventually sad, they'd have to blame themselves for their unhappiness. Who likes to be responsible for that?

2007-02-16 09:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

We need reasurance from others.

We are social creatures, we cannot just rely on ourselves for everything. Happiness, ultimately is internal, but we need others to know we are happy and so we're not alone.

2007-02-16 09:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy 3 · 0 0

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