Does a man really need to have sex with a woman to continue dating a woman?

Question

Why doesn't a man just take me out and get to know me. Is there any man that really want to get to know a woman so the relationship isn't just based on sex. It seems like once I give in. The men I date wants it the first thing before we go out. Is it best just to hold back but let him know that yes I like you sexually but I just don't want him to be blinded just on that.

I guess the reall issue is that I want to have sex with love and not just the action.

Answer 1

Well the first time...its like all he wants is sex. Turn him down, and he'll want to ask more, don't give in, men want his women to say no to him, so he can beg...later when she gives in and SHE wants him...it makes it better for him, cuz its not only him that wants it, you do too!
P.S. let him get to know you first, if he doesn't...he's just plain straight out DUMB!
Even men are dumb when they propose to a girl they HARDLY even know...and he was dating her for like 3-4 months...doesn't know her, then proposes to her (how in the h*ll does he even know she is the right one???) she is also really dumb if she says YES when he askes her "will you marry me (her first name and last name...and some times Middle (thats if he really knows her!!)).
Sorry...but i am just stating my point and opinion. I hope someone agrees with me.

Answer 2

I think I agree with you--men and women should be able to state what it is they want. If they're incompatible, that's not a great match. So if a man wants to raise his kids Jewish and a woman wants to raise them Catholic, then probably they should rethink the relationship. Similarly, if a man wants to have frequent sex and the woman hates sex, then the man should move on. I think the idea here, though, is slightly more complex because it is time-limited. So if a man wants frequent sex but the woman wants to wait for MARRIAGE, that's a little different. I do think the man is well within his rights to "look for greener pastures," but the right advice for him may well be that he shouldn't do so for his own happiness. Consider a woman who wants a lifelong partnership, or a financial commitment, or a commitment to help care for any children--accidental or desired--before she sleeps with a man. But she and the man get along great on every other issue. Her sex drive might even be very high--she might be the kind of woman who really looks forward to sleeping with the man in question, and who would one day give him just what he wants in that realm, too. Well, then friends would probably be right to tell the man to stick with her and see how the relationship develops. This isn't that the man SHOULD do so out of some moral obligation, but just that, he might decide after some time that he wants to marry the lady, and that she makes him laugh and enjoys his pastimes and likes his friends and is smoking hot (or whatever it is that makes them an otherwise good couple). Well, so after they get married, they'll have a fantastic sex life, too. I think that's the origin of this idea. Anyway, it's the only way it makes sense. Women are more inclined to look for commitment and stability in a relationship. If that's not what the man is looking for right now, then he should move on as you say. But if he happens to be looking for real long-term-relationship material at the moment, then it may be worth sticking it out for a while with a girl who is pretty good for him, because eventually they will start having sex (before, or after, marriage)--and then things might be better for him then if he went and found some less-interesting girl who was more willing to put out at the beginning.

Answer 3

If you want to wait for a man to be in love with you before having sex, well... good luck.

You can be the one having it with him, or someone else will. Men will not willingly go very long without sex. Hold out as long as you want, but know he's naturally looking elswhere while you wait.

Just because you have sex, it doesn't mean the relationship is only based on sex. Stop making sex a big deal.

Have it when you want it, don't when you don't. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, and you move on.

Answer 4

Then don't have sex until you have an emotional connection. I'm not sure what type of guys you date, but I never had a problem dating and getting to know them before I slept with them. And if they wouldn't take no for an answer, I got rid of them. Most guys will wait, but some will try to sweet talk you. Just don't give in. If they don't wait, they weren't the one for you.

Answer 5

If he is a gentleman and an adult he will be waiting till the time is right also. Sadly many men only want sex and that is all they will ever want. Don't give in, be true to you.

Answer 6

They are few and far between - but there are guys out there who really do want to get to know you before going all the way. My bf and I waited until we were sure we liked each other as friends before we went all the way.

Answer 7

My motto is, "if a guy can't keep it in his pants until i'm ready then don't waste your time." He may be sweet caring charming. But if you want something for life and you know he does too yall would both just wait until the time was right and both were ready.

Answer 8

Don't give into him until u r ready. If the guy isn't willing to wait then he is w/ u for the wrong reasons. If the guy really likes u then he will wait.

Answer 9

I think it depends for how long - a few weeks I think most men can deal - several months and they are out of there! Or worse than will find someone else to sleep w and leave your *** in the grass!

Answer 10

Err....

Can i skip this question?

Cuz i personally dun NEED sex...

sex is onli for enjoyment and to bond relationships wif their partners better...

So...

I realli can't answer your question...

But as for your holding back part...

I totally agree that you should...

Be sure that he isn't just trying to go on One-Night stands...

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