me and my boyfriend werent talking to each other for a few days not even on valentines day. but i have been talking to this other guy. me and this other guy arent trying to have a serious realationship, but we both like each other. me and my boyfriend always fight but have been going out for a long time. i want to break it off but it is soo hard. i get along with my friend so much better and we have known each other for a long time now and we always laugh. what should i do. stay with a boyfriend and be unhappy here happy here or be single. keep in mind me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for 7 years and for the past year and couple of months straight, but things are not working that good.
2007-02-16 01:10:13 · 12 answers · asked by i got excitement in my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were very young when the relationship started, you both were still figuring out your true selves, values and identities. It is not unusual for people to grow apart once they find out their values and goals are very different.
Do you really want to live a lie? I doubt it...it might hurt your boyfriend now to break up with him, but the longer you prolong it, the harder it will be.
It is not a reflection on him personally or have anything to do with him as person; it is just that you don't have the same values and goals and that is the best way to put it.
You might want to try being single for awhile and not jump into a new relationship, but that is up to you.
2007-02-16 01:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been together that long and its not working out then it probally wasn't meant to be plus it sounds like you have already decided to move on you just haven't gotten up the nerve to actually do it yet. The best course of action for you two would be communication. Talk to him and let him know how you feel and that you think it would be better if you moved on in your lives and that you don't want to spend the rest of your life in an on again off again relationship and fight all the time.
Good Luck
2007-02-16 09:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not in love you shouldn't be with him, but you could just be going through a hard time. You should NEVER break up for someone for another person, in my experience, the 2nd relationship never works out anyway. Getting together with the other guy might ruin your great friendship w/ him. In your heart, you should feel what's right...good luck!!!
2007-02-16 09:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kadi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie life is too short to be unhappy. I don't think how long you have been together is relevant. You're young and you're not married to him. Move on with your life and find the happiness you deserve. Whether or not you end up with your friend let the boyfriend go.
2007-02-16 09:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course u are goin to like the other guy alot because thats how it always is........things are sweet at first.. if things havn't been in place with ur current b/f for 7 years something isnt right. theres nothing wrong with being single!
2007-02-16 09:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by LaLa-Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice go with what makes you happy juts because you have a history dosent mean you have to be sad and unhapy if the other guy kaes you feel good then go for it..kk well laters and good luck to you..
you only got so long on this earth might as well enjoy it..:)
2007-02-16 09:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by rm4real 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this hun, but I think that it's time to move on. If after seven years, things are still not great, then you need to think about yourself and what you want and need. You need to move on to someone who is going to respect you and not break things off when things get bad. I hope this helps!
2007-02-16 09:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Angelbaby79 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend he will always be in your heart but you have lost the spark and you cant keep this relationship you want someone that you can stay with and not keep breaking up tell him it is for the better and he will meet the love of his life one day
2007-02-16 09:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by crystal w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i would break it off and go out with the other guy....especially if u like him. If u and ur bf arent talkin and have been fighting then theres no point in dealing with it....go out with the other guy.
2007-02-16 09:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by brit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do wat u feels is best. if u think that one of those 2 r better then do it!!! do u want 2 be happy or unhappy...... i had kindof the same problem i broke up with one guy and moved on with my life!! i then asked the other guy out!
2007-02-16 09:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by ciara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋