How is it that behavior is excused in adults by other adults when a child?

Question

...is expected to learn and adults are expected to teach?

What is luring adults into falling for this imaturity, fear, peer pressure, fads, lack of leadership, money?

Negative behavior is simply documented and labeled which is the next best thing to an excuse because no human being can learn to find a solution for peace in their lives based on irresponsible leadership.

Answer 1

* Children should learn not to bend under peer pressure while young so they will be able to handle the same as adults.*

Answer 2

First, let's face it, no one "has" to correct someone else's child at any time. You choose to. Second, are you elderly or infirm? Is it directly effecting you (other than the annoyance factor) if a kid is running in a store? If not, then why do you feel the need to say something for someone else's sake? Don't you think the elderly and/or infirm can speak fro themselves? Don't you think if the kid takes a header, they might think twice before they run around a store again? You're robbing the child of a learning opportunity, and you're robbing the adults who really may be effected by the behavior of their right to stand up for themselves. And lastly, it is certainly not your job to monitor and censor what other people say, even in public. Would you say "EXCUSE me? What did you say?" if an adult said something disrespectful? It is also not your job to decide what is disrespectful or bad language. What if the parent is trying not to make a big deal out of the bad language so it doesn't get repeated again and again - kids often do it just to get a rise out of people, and when it works they keep doing it. So you may have effectively negated what the parent was trying to accomplish. Personally, I hope my child will never act up in public. In reality, I realize that it will probably happen at least once. If someone said any of the things you mentioned to my child, they would certainly get some stern words from me. Edit - I don't think anyone has said that running around a store is acceptable behavior. And as it appears you are elderly and infirm, then you do have a right to be safe, but you should be saying something to the parents, and it should be about your safety, not the way they are raising their children. I still don't think that some kid swearing is a danger to your health no matter how old you are though.

Answer 3

Hmmm....good question....from a personal standpoint...I usually mess up when I am tired or stressed.

90 percent of the time I am the person I want my kids to learn from ....but that 10 percent...not so proud of...but I do apologize and take responsibility for my own actions (swearing mostly).

I don't think too many people can "step out of themselves" and see themselves as others do. It's hard in a busy, fast paced world, but when it does happen, it can be an eye-opening experience.

I could never figure out grownups who follow fads, peer pressure, money....is it TOO much self esteem and grandiosity or TOO low self-esteem, never feeling enough.

Again, great question.

Answer 4

I agree with you. Many parents have fallen away from their responsibility of being good parents (which includes discipline). I see so many disrespectful children these days, and to find some who are disciplined and respectful is very difficult.

I think it's because of whatever the government (through bodies like Social Services) promote at the time. I remember when I was growing up, there was always a big campaign about letting your children express themselves; "let them tell you that they feel like hitting you or calling you names" is what was going on then. Unfortunately, my mother was gullible and gave into their suggestions. It never felt right to me, when she would tell me, "It's okay if you tell me that you are mad at me and feel like hitting me or cursing at me (as long as you don't actually do it.)"

Well, this teaches a child that it's okay to disrespect your parents. It never felt right to me, but my older sister gave in.

Afterwards and still now, the big campaign is "don't spank your child, put them in time out." Why shouldn't you spank your child, as long as you do it reasonably (no bruising and such)? This has and will continue to produce a society of unruly adults who have ABSOLUTELY NO regard for any authority, not even the law. That is why crime continues to rise and criminals become more ruthless.

Answer 5

repentance is the key to being forgiven in adults.
God has forgiven us because of the atonement Jesus has Endured. but it is the immaturity of men, that dont know any better that makes adults continue doing something that is wicked, evil and wrong.
Children learn from their parents because this is the way God has enabled mankind to live. but it is the same process that satan corrupts into a rebellion of God by disconnecting men from the truth.
Lack of leadership and knowing who the leaders of God are, through confusions and contention is also a fault of peer pressure.

Answer 6

Never growing up in the first place. Taking those same insecurities from childhood into the teens never addressing the issues, now that they're adults still not tending to these insecurities. Which now play out into their off springs lives. This is called generational curses

Answer 7

Honestly.....I'm a little confused by your question.
I'm trying.......but I can't quite follow what your asking here.....

Edit:
Okay...I get it now. The answer is satan. This world belongs to him at the moment. But soon and very soon....it will belong to Jesus Christ. Only then will all of those things mentioned above be done away with.

Answer 8

You mean why do some adults say nothing about another adult believing in God yet they'd correct their 15 year old child if they still believed in the tooth fairy?

Answer 9

I worked in a restaurant and I wondered that too! The parents would tell the children to say 'thank you', but they wouldn't say it themselves. It really would really irritate me that they were not leading by example.

Answer 10

I 2nd that. I'm not sure what the question is, but if you add a details for the question, I will edit and answer.