I got a new screen name and contacted my boyfriend with it. He really thought I was some other girl who contacted him from an old dating site he had been on. He arranged to meet me for coffee. Of course I did not show up. I guess it is over but I have not let on yet and he phones regularly declaring his love for me. This was not a good thing for me to have done because now I mistrust him completely. I guess there is no salvage and I should move on. Still it is hard to do and I guess need some direction to get over the hurt. Has anyone been in a similar situation?
2007-02-16 01:08:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend cheated on me all the time. At first I let him walk all over me and I 'didn't care' because I 'loved' him and he said he 'loved' me. Well first of all, if he loved me he wouldn't of done that, and same about your boyfriend, if he really cares about you, he wouldn't be doing this. He would want you and you only, and that is what you deserve. You should dump him, tell him why and make him feel like an idiot. You know there are plenty of guys out there who would he so happy to have you in their lives, and would treat you the way you deserve. I know it is easier said then done, and when people say this to you at first you won't believe them, because I was just in the same boat. Then I realized that it is true, there are SOOO many other guys out there. You need to do what is best for you though, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is going to cheat on you? You don't need that, you need someone who is going to treat you like a princess!
2007-02-16 01:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really a similar situation,but something i do have to say. Would you rather have known that he was asking a girl out for coffee, or let him keep it behind your back? Just imagine how much more hurt you would have been if he would have told you in say 6 months. You need to let him know that it was you and you know his little secret. Don't let him waste his time on you when you know you can do better. He needs to find someone else, as do you.
good luck!
2007-02-16 01:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i can say to help is do what makes you happiest. If you like to shop, and can afford to buy your self something that's sexy than go for it,Now the next thing I'd do is email him again have him ask you out again, but this time put on your new cloths, and show up. This will give you the closer you need, or at least help make it Little easier to deal with.
2007-02-16 01:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by russell c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you out that easily when he thought you were someone else, he has probably been doing the same with other girls he meets on the internet. He's not worth your tears or your love.you don't need to confront him about it, he would just lie to you. You did not do the wrong thing, your lucky you found out about him now instead of later.
2007-02-16 01:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Dan ( 2 ) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take this with a grain of salt! Meet him, surprise him! Make it look like it was something to spice up your relationship... You never know, he could be thinking it's you & played along because it is fun! If he's shocked, then take the high road & wish him well... You deserve better!
I know it sounds like a game, but you became a player when you contacted him with the new screen name. Lesson: Don't play with fire unless you are prepared to get burned.
2007-02-16 01:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend that did this as well. This indicated to her that he was not trustworthy and she moved on. If he really loves you, why is he meeting potential mates for coffee? I would be hurt, but knowing I need to move on.
2007-02-16 01:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup - a guy I was dating did the same thing to me. I was lucky - I knew I did not want to be with him and was just looking for a good reason to dump him. He made it so easy. Move on and find someone new.
2007-02-16 01:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you talk to him I bet his excuse would be he knew it was you. I heard of a couple similar situations and both times that was the excuse. No doubt he is cheating or thinking of it. Find someone who is honest and you can trust. Without trust it wont work. Good luck.
2007-02-16 01:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I haven't, but I do know that honesty is always best. You should sit down and talk with him; tell him what you did, and how you feel about it. You can try to work things out, or you can move on. Either way, talk with him first, and then make your decision. Good luck!
2007-02-16 01:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was pretty swift of you to "play that trick" on him...at least you know now that he's not fully interested in you and is still looking for "something"...I would ask him if he's been on any sites to meet people...If he says no...let him know he's full of it...and when he starts to put his back up....defending himself as best as he can...let him know "your screen name you used to MEET him for coffee*"....when his mouth drops open...you can then turn and walk out the door and dont look back* He's not worth it~
2007-02-16 01:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋