im just a shadow of the former myself. im suffering like a dog, so down for 1 year. she was my everything, we were so happy for 5 years. now i have nothing without her, dont see any chance to get her back. though its the only hope for me. her or noone else. believe me, i feel it from heart and soul, know it from brain. dont come with the old fashioned phrasis like "soon you will forget her", "there soon will be another one" etc. i know it better, these are my things, i know it the best. (unfortunately) i had some painful break ups before, but all of them was easier to forget and get over it. now i know, that its different. she is the best for me, i know i can never find anyone better. i dont even look for any, no use for it. i tried many things to get her back, but no result.
any advice how to deal with it? how can i fight for her? any experience? any advise how to get her back?
im not waiting for "oh dear, i feel pity for you". im fed up with these, its no help
2007-02-16 00:59:51 · 6 answers · asked by ford 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was going to give you pity till i see you don't want any, so my advice is go tell her how you trully feel, i don' tknow the situation, (is she going out with someone else?) Ask her why it didn't work out, if there is anything you can change??? If it really honestly has no hope, please don't give up on love, it WILL hurt for a long time and maybe forever but maybe now isn't the time, i've heard of couples getting back together like YEARS later....hope things turn up better for you soon hang in there dude
2007-02-16 01:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I won't say soon you will forget her, because you won't. She will always be a part of your memory. I know you've heard it all...but, seriously, I been there, where I thought there was no one else in this world for me and I would never date or talk to a guy again! But, time .... time, time, time....time heals all wounds! Trust me...it may take a while. But dont do what I did...laying around sulking, feeling sorry for yourself, waiting for him (in your case--her) to call! It's a waste of time and a waste of your life. Life is short, so have fun! Life is a big adventure...you're now ready for your next journey...so let life lead you wherever it may! Hey, maybe it was meant to be this way and there is a better destiny for you. The best thing you can do until the pain is gone is spend time with friends and family! Go out and have fun! It's aldo easier if you have another girl to talk to...maybe not to date if you're not ready...but it helps alot! Just things to keep your mind busy..Please, please, please dont sit at home.....that makes things worse! Try not to think of the good times...at least until your heart has healed. You will get over it and be able to move on just fine! You just gotta be strong and know that there is always someone else...may not seem like it right now, but there really is! Different people have dif. qualities (as Im sure you know) so a diff girl could have some good qualities that your ex did not have...But it will all work out in the end, dont worry! So, get out and have some fun! Live it up! Move forward...dont dwell on the past and what could have been ...it doesnt always work out how we think (hoped). Breakups do get harder and harder every time.... who said life was supposed to be easy?! Just take life as it comes...take the good with the bad...you win some, you lose some. But, we are all in this world together...so lets make it happy while we're here! Good Luck on your journey in life, Hope I could help a lil!
2007-02-16 09:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go find out why you two broke up in the first place...
She wants you to change sumthing there...
Oni when you realise what wrong you are in...
Then ask about this qn on how to get her back...
I need to noe how she treats you for this one year you both have not communicated...
Cuz i believe that one year to look back for her is definitely too long a time...
She would have another guy who was beside her when she was down...
Goodness, where were you at the times she needed you?
Onli if she forgives you and if you are determined in getting her back would you ensure a high chance of success...
However, determination does not work alone... You have to do what it takes to make sure everything goes to plan...
And even after you manage to patch up with her...
How would you prevent certain stuff from happening again to make her leave you...
Think about it man...
Your destiny lies in your own hands...
2007-02-16 09:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anselmor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and figure out what makes you happy. You have to learn how to make yourself happy, no one else can do that for you. It sounds like you have lost yourself in that relationship. If it is meant to be it will be. You get yourself together and make yourself happy and you never know what can happen. You have to have a open mind and heart. Right now while your sulking over your ex it could be someone right now for you but your eyes are closed and your heart is bruised. You are never given anything you cannot handle. Be strong, love to learn yourself unconditionally take time to please yourself and love will come. No one can make you happy but yourself. we forget sometimes we dont need a b/f or g/f we want one. Your time will come trust me, but open your eyes you can be missing out on it. For your ex, you never know she might see that you dont need her anymore and come back maybe not. But you might also get someone so much better for you. and when you do, youll realize your ex wasnt all that you were just trippin. And your not pitiful there alot of people are going to tell you that but screw them, because trust, if their heart was broken they too would be sad. were all different so we react to different things in different ways and the time we spend recovering or healing will vary for person to person. We came in this world by ourselves(unless ur a twin) and will surely leave this world by ourself.
2007-02-16 09:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by FauxDr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her that you are really sincere with her and think about the reasons why she break up with you and try your best to change those unwanted qualities of yours. but if the problem is not you but with her then you better let go of it. i know you dnt want to hereaout thesewords but you should face the truth. it is definitely true that you can never solve a problem if u wont face it. And it is that if you wont face the truth it is that you can never move on. hope you understand my message..=)
2007-02-16 09:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by natasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man get a backbone get out and live Hey i work with some single women maybe i get help you out!!
2007-02-16 09:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by magnificentj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋