What would cause you to call off your wedding, the day before you are suppose to get married?

Question

I am looking for reasons from people. I know that cheating is one.. what reasons other than cheating would you call off your wedding.

Answer 1

I realize it is a lame answer - but that it does not "feel right." I have friends who have since gotten divorced who have told me they felt "something was off" the day of the wedding, but they brushed it off as cold feet and went ahead.

I suppose if you wanted specifics with relation to calling off the wedding I would add:

1) My partner hurt my kids/family
2) My partner ruined me financially (stole money, unwisely invested without my consent, etc.)
3) Physical, sexual, emotional, or psychological abuse.
4) I felt the need to look over my shoulder all the time because I could not trust her, regardless of the situation.

....there are probably more, but since I cannot even get a date, talking about marriage is a far-off concept for me! LOL

Answer 2

If he hit me, I'd have to call it off. Our relationship would change so much after that that marriage wouldn't be in the cards then. It would take a lot of time and therapy to get back there. Same goes with cheating. If he decided he wanted kids one day, well that would change things a lot too since I'm decidedly childfree, but I'm not therapy would help it. If he up and said he wanted an open relationship/marriage, no wedding. Maybe a death in the family...depending though, might still go through with it.

Answer 3

I don't believe in that whole last night of freedom crap and that a guy should be allowed to go to a strip club just because he's getting married. I see absolutely no point and I think it is very disrespectful. My fiance has never been to a strip club and their is no reason that he should ever go to a strip club. And I have told him and all of his friends if I find out that their were strippers involved in any way shape or form at his bachelor party then I will not marry him. I told him if I find out 2 years later I will divorce him, if I find out the day of our wedding I will divorce him and some people think that I shouldn't feel this way and some totally agree with me and that's fine, I don't care what everybody else thinks about the situation. It's the way that I was raised and my morals and it is something that I feel strongly about and since I feel that way then my fiance should respect how I feel too. And he does and I completely trust him. It's his friends I don't trust. But he has also told them too, hopefully the listen. So yeah if I find out that their was a stripper at his bachelor party then it's bye-bye!

Answer 4

Well, calling the wedding off the day before is a little embarassing. People probably travelled miles and paid good money to come see you get married So, this should be a last case scenario.

I would hestitate no matter what.

Answer 5

If I was having some major doubts I would. If I woke up the day of the wedding and I wasnt completely sure, I wouldnt have gone through with it.

Its much easier to break of an engament than a marriage. The money you would loose on the wedding isnt worth your happiness.

Answer 6

Outside of cheating; if I found out he falsely represented his past or who he really was. It would depend on the degree of the indiscretion; if I found out he was an only child when he claimed to have several siblings I wouldn't consider this a deal breaker, but would have to find out why in the hell he lied about it in the first place; however if I found out he had a criminal past; especially sexual predatory crimes, murder, any of the biggies, then that would be a deal breaker. Any form of secrecy about who one really is or significant past actions that could affect the relationship that is found out at a later date can cause a major strain on the trust part of the relationship. For me personally; without the trust there is no real basis for a relationship; much less marriage.

Answer 7

If I found out about a massive lie. Like, if he had a child that he'd known about but didn't tell me about. Or if he'd had like, $20,000 debt that he didn't mention. Or bisexual tendencies that he'd repressed.

Emotionally, I would be devastated that he'd been lying to me; how can a marriage survive with a liar? Practically, all of those things I listed would seriously impact our lives together and need to be disclosed so that everyone knows what they're getting into.

Answer 8

violence and cheating are the only reasons that I would call off a wedding or get divorced.

I could not forgive him for betraying me...and I could not betray myself by staying with him if he abused me. Anything else can be worked out.

Answer 9

your right of course cheating, but a death in the family or major health issue would definetly be the deciding factor, ex-if my dad were to God forbid have a heart attack the day before the wedding, we would bump it back til he could be there!

Answer 10

If i caught him cheating right before my very eyes, is one. Another would be family pressure. Like if my aunts and mum butt in and tell me what I should have, should do, should act etc. There's a limit to that, and I can act very irrationally.