Yes, I know everyone's supposed to be open and communicate about their sexual needs, but I don't know if you've ever had a conversation where you nervously asked your Very Nice Boyfriend to pull your hair? Oh... it's terrible.
I'm a pretty ladylike, fairly "traditionally female" girl (yes, I know someone out there is gearing up to be totally offended by that, but I just wanted a short way to explain that). This is probably going to sound exceedingly lame, but I would be quite excited to be in a relationship with a really manly man who is amused and approving when i cook him retro roast-based dinners, and who agrees with me that our interests do not have to overlap or match in all areas. And then perhaps he could take me to bed and be quite forceful and pull my hair and demand that I call him inappropriate things....sorry got a bit carried away :P
Where can I find a man like this? How would I even know if he's my type? Do men like this even exist??
2007-02-16 00:08:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! You're awesome!! And yes we do exist lol.
2007-02-16 00:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make me laugh.
Are you essentialy saying that you want to be treated like a 1950's housewife in the kitchen and a w@*%£ in the bedroom?
If you do then I am the same. I love cooking for my man and being a good little housewife (although we are not married) I dont fid it demeaning at all. I love to cook and I love to nurture and my man loves it too. But I know what you mean about the bedroom, that is a different story, no 1950's twin beds in my house.
Its a totally reasonable request and most guys are driven crazy by this. He loves the fact that his friends and family think that I am such a good girl when he knows differently.
If you are experimental in bed men love it. It is usually the guys who have the strange fantasies and requests, I am sure he will be more than obliging to satisfy yours.
Again he may be very nice to you and the world but should be allowed to be a bit different in the throws of passion. Give it a go, it will make him laugh and it will also let him know that he is in for a lot of fun!!
2007-02-16 08:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have to go thru several retro based dinners first to find a guy who is old fashioned on the outside but aggressive in bed but that man does exist. Just keep communications open so you and your partner can give each other many things that please you both. Good Luck
2007-02-16 08:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by childofthefifties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, men are usually quite accommodating in bed. If you're doing things that please him, he'll likely be more than agree-able. When he sees that this just makes you wilder, he'll do it all the time.
You have to understand that most men wouldn't treat a woman like this unless they are asked to.
I once had a girlfriend that liked this sort of thing. I didn't know it at first. sex was always pretty good with her. One time before we did it, she asked me "would you pull my hair and call me a bi`yatch when we do it"? I was a little taken aback at first, as i wasn't used to that sort of thing. After talking a bit more and agree-ing on signals as to if it was doing it too hard/not hard enough, i said I'd try.
Well, I did as she requested and much to my surprise, she was totally wild with me and I was glad she had talked to me, because I'd had never realized her "magic trigger" had she not told me.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-02-16 08:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they exist. Find someone you have a strong attraction to, then build a relationship. Most people within a relationship are willing to do what it takes to please their partner. So, just be open and honest with him. I am sure he will be delighted to assist you. Good luck and God bless****
2007-02-16 08:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately for you you'll probably end up with a pervert :( youve gotta be careful - there are many men who'd want that
but you DONT want a man completely oposed to woman's rights
honest, just try it with a boy and see how he reacts if you do stuf for him, you dont have to explain you want this, just assume the submissive role and he'll catch on
2007-02-16 08:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by whorey_floory 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything that turns you on shouldn't be embarassing to ask.
I've had one gal I was seeing tell me all red faced that she liked to be spanked..and how hard. Ok...so I did it.
just keep the communicaton open...he might open up about stuff HE likes....and if you do what HE likes....and he does what YOU like...you might want to consider investing in soundproofing...;-)
2007-02-16 08:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by phillyvic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are few and far between. Ask yr prospective man. If he's freaked out, move on. If he's all to happy, leave him (weirdo). If he's ok, and will try it, give him a shot. If you don't ask, u'll never get! I asked for some things and man...am I happy now!
2007-02-16 08:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by synjhindb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thought girls like you only existed in my dreams. Yes there are guys like that. I'm one of them ;)
2007-02-16 10:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by st.camilus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL !!
I think once you feel comfortable with him you should be able to ask something like that. It may not take too long really.
2007-02-16 08:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by marti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋