Are you the type of guy who is generally not shy but can be really shy with the girl you like?

Question

I want to understand you...
what would you want her to do/say?

I'm in a situation where I think we both like each other, but he can be really shy sometimes (as with me). When we talk, it's fine, because we are already good friends and know each other well. But it seems very difficult for either of us to initiate something?

I'm also not a shy girl generally speaking. But I've believed in the past that guys should make the first move. I have already made some moves, but I guess I've also given mixed signals in the past.

INXS: I'm asking because I was thinking of asking him out to coffee or lunch, though we already see each other pretty much everyday (since we usually have lunch together with other friends). I was also planning to thank him for the past, then also let him know I've liked him for a long time, and then ask him to possibly release my heart so that I won't need to feel guilty to give room to someone else.

Answer 1

I know exactly what your talking about.
A guy that is that shy, is scared. He is afraid of being rejected, and if rejected, it would ruin your friendship because there would be an ackwardness there that wasn't before.
You need to speak, tell him how you feel, and he will reply.
Just understand, if you want to move from a friendship, to a relationship, there is no turning back after it's done.
That kind of shyness means he doesn't have alot of romantic experience with girls, so you will have to help him.

Answer 2

I am a shy guy around lasses I like, but in other circumstances I am not shy.

I have always gone down the normal route of asking the lass if she wanted to go out somewhere, cinema, drink, something to eat and gauged it from there.

If I thought there was something there then I would make an attempt to get to know her better, (numerous ways).

And once I got to know her I would ask her out.

Also I think traditionally guys should ask the girls out but I think its fine for girls to make the first move, especially if your giving off mixed signals which I know alot of lasses do.

Answer 3

You both just need to be comfortable with eachother.
Once the friendship is at the level where you two can call eachother anytime, talk to eachother, and approach eachother without being afraid, it is a GREAT friendship and can turn out to be wonderful relationships if you both tell eachother how you feel!

I was this way with a girl but dude!!! when we got close and became good friends it was amazing! it was fun and we hung out alot and went places. I liked her and stuff and told her but yea it was complicated and I was a little young. But thinking back, i wouldn't have thought it wouldve lasted but hey, life goes on and you'll find the special someone

=D

Answer 4

properly even besides the undeniable fact that the loud/get mutually female does have her solid characteristics I want the shy female they tend to imagine two times as a lot as an undemanding individual thoroughly diverse than a lady with a empty head that shouts. and Shy ladies are oftentimes more beneficial into romantic area of an relationship quite than the intimate area =3

Answer 5

Could be a fear thing. Has he ever had a girlfriend? If he hasn't then he may be unsure or lack confidence. Best if you take the initiative and gently suggest that you wish to take the relationship further. Watch his reaction closely, this will indicate where you stand. Dont push it if he is reluctant - it will affect the friendship in a negative way. Good luck.

Answer 6

Based on my own experience, im a shy guy to someone i like, but the best thing that made "us click" is that she just hold my hands and thats it. Intelligent people need no explenation on body language as well. I've been asked too som'like "do you want me?" i was embarrassed though but i did say 'yes, and a lot!'

Answer 7

It's not always that a guy goes for d first move.Just go ahead and ask him directly"Do u like me?".Since u r not a shy girl i believe u'll do it.
BEST OF LUCK !

Answer 8

just call him up and talk on the phone one night and tell him that you are interested in him and want to take your relationship to the next level and hang out more one on one and then he will get the message

Answer 9

yeah
why are you asking?

Answer 10

i definitely am :)