My daughters father denied her existence all through my pregnancy and up until last week. He denied he was the father and wanted me to get an abortion. Now, he is engaged and wants to see her ( which I am pleased with, and will do what I can to make sure she knows her dad ) HOWEVER, I had a nightmare last night that he filed for custody and won. I'm a single mom putting herself though college, and he works at the college. I was just curious if the courts would ever grant him custody ( if he ever wants to fight me for it ) knowing he makes more money and will be married. Yes, I know it was just a dream...but I'm sure its happened. THANKS SO MUCH!
2007-02-15 23:11:04 · 9 answers · asked by uniek_angel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh, and she is almost nine months old now!
2007-02-15 23:15:04 · update #1
Thanks for the three answers I have! I'm on my way to work but I wanted to thank you guys!
PS. Working at 430am is insanity!
2007-02-15 23:22:32 · update #2
i think the only way for you to loose custody..is if you were an unfit parent! meaning! doing drugs...beating your child..neglect..ect...! i dont think money has to do with anything!! even if he has money or not! he will have to pay child support either way! i belive a mother has a more right to that baby if she is fit to be a parent! you carried her for 9 months! he didnt do crap!!
2007-02-15 23:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I have some of the same concerns as you, seeing as how I'm looking a divorce in the face, and I don't even have my Gr. 12 diploma yet, haven't worked in years, and am suffering from depression as well. I'm sure that the financial aspect is not the only thing that they look at though. If you have been her only caregiver and are taking good care of her so far, you have a higher chance of more custody rights or (worst case) joint custody. I know they must look at overall well-being, and if it was all about the money, there wouldn't be child and spousal support, instead they would just give the kid to the richest parent. If i were you, I would talk to a lawyer from now, just so you know what to expect and if there's anything you can do now to better protect your rights if he does try for custody in the future.
2007-02-15 23:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i am a single mother of two and i went through your nightmare. Seriously i did and it sucked but not anymore. The court system bases who gets custody on lost of things. Money is an issue but the bigger issue is who is more stable as a parent. Who can provide the better and most support? There are lots of things to factor in! I am lower income i work my **** off for everything i have! I can still afford my kids and my ex pays child support SO i got full custody. I was a stay at home mom for 3 years. The judge said it made sense. He didnt and wouldnt for no reason offset the balence and stability i had with my kids!
Kell
2007-02-15 23:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scare of losing your custody of your child. Paint a picture of a stable parent with full responsibilities,like having a job, w/ stable income and staying ahead of everything or at less try to. Money factor in child custody is not the most important one. Who has always been there for the child since the day of conception is. Just don't have him prove that you are a drug user, alcoholic, anything that would show of a unfit parent. And whatever happen don't get lied to by him (the father). For example: Give me custody and I will marry you.. "don't do it", b/c if he was going to marry you he would w/o any trending.
2007-02-15 23:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by It'sJust-Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I know of. In every child custody battle that I know of personally, the mother won out, regardless of income. Now, if he makes good wages, you may get a nice settlement of child support, including back pay to the day your child was born.
2007-02-15 23:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a super sort of incorrect information right here. with the objective to sparkling some issues up... women report for divorce 2/3 of the time, no longer 3/4. that is nevertheless the known public, yet no longer virtually as lots. Statistically, maximum couples determine on custody in the past the divorce even is going to courtroom. So, that is no longer that the mummy is provided custody by ability of the courts greater, that is that greater couples determine on their own that the mummy could have custody. And infant help isn't 2/3 of the non custodial father and mom pay. that's a million/3 for the 1st infant, and is to no longer exceed 40% of the the non custodial parent's pay, inspite of the kind of babies. that's what that's the place i'm from, i do no longer know the place you're from. And no, that is no longer babies from divorced father and mom that are filling up the jails. that is no longer even babies from single mom properties. that is babies from poverty. that's a statistical actuality. And of each and all of the folk i know that are divorced, the non-custodial is provided visitation quite a few time a week, and on weekends. in actuality, the association is particularly lots that the non-custodial parent can see the babies basically every time they prefer. i do no longer know your project, or why you have been provided so little time, regardless of the undeniable fact that that is no longer regular from what i've got seen. I agree that a divorced father can nevertheless be a super father, and be very in touch in raising his babies. i've got seen it. a pair that my husband and that i are pals with is a super occasion of preserving a supportive parental unit for their babies even AFTER divorce. He sees them only approximately daily, takes them to college, is going to all of his infant's video games, scout conferences, tenting, and so on. He moved only a mile away (particular, they agreed she would save the domicile in the past they went to courtroom) to be there for his youngsters, to work out them each and all of the time. the father and mom cooperate with one yet another, are respectful of one yet another, and look into themselves to be father and mom jointly, even nevertheless they are divorced. human beings could study to place aside their egos and petty variations and be father and mom to their babies jointly. That is going for adult men and girls.
2016-11-23 12:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a mother is one good advantage of the custody of a child, the question now is will you have the capacity to bring-up your daughter. Its not a question of who does have more money.
2007-02-15 23:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by Eric Jare V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the courts eyes money doesnt make you a better parent. so unless he can prove ur unfit, you should be fine. however if he goes for joint custody. he will most likely be granted that.
2007-02-16 00:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by jjsoccer_18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have to prove you unfit to get full custody of her. Does not matter if he was a millionare.
2007-02-15 23:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋