I'm beginning to hate my Brother. help me!!!!!?

Question

When my mom died I swore her to take care of my older brother. He has mental deficiency. His not that stupid (he actually finished high school). All I need to do is support him financially and emotionally with the help of my father and older sisters. And to fight for him when others hurt him. We open a small store for him to manage a lot of times but it always turn out bankrupt. Problem start when he met this girl in the store. She pretended to like him and steal money and things from us with the help of my brother. She left my brother and promised to return. He taught the girl really loved him. We forgive him coz' of his status and he said his sorry, we manage to recover few things. But my brother change for worst. His always having tantrums and break a lot of things when we correct his mistakes. He even hurt my sister just b'coz my father scolded him. He never say sorry and pretend nothing happen. I'm starting to hate him. Please give me advice. My promise to my mom is holding me.

Answer 1

Do you have your own family? Husband and kids? As much as you would love to keep your promise to your mom, she would TOTALLY understand if you couldn't because it is making you mentally exhausted or taking it's toll on your own family. I don't think you hate him. I think you are at your wits end and frustrated with all that is happening. You have to remember one thing - you have to be mentally and physically in shape to deal with life and if your brother and his disability is making you ill, you need to take the right steps in getting your brother better help. It's only fair to the both of you. Good luck!

Answer 2

have you sought professional help for your brother? You don't have to accept full responsibility for him, if anything, that's your fathers responsibility. Get on with your life and just do what you can to help out when you can.