I understand that he is the pastor yet he leave as if he is single yet he is married and he doesn't look after his family properly,I mean fanancially,it came to a point where by I had to go to another city to work there for survival,I feel as if I have to look after him as all the money from the church is used for church needs,what about his family needs.when I say to him he must try to be a part time pastor he is refusing saying who will do the work of God?if he is busy working and I ask what about his family needs.I am trully not happy I even think to leave him,he is so ignorant the only thing that its important to him is the congrigation,I am not against that but he must also look after his family or he was suppose to get marride until he saw that he was going to afford to look after his family.
daphne_motha@yahoo.com
2007-02-15 22:17:43 · 14 answers · asked by Daphne M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So what if you have to get a job! This isn't the 1800s, women can work too, for goodness sake. If he wants to do his church thing so be it, let him do the housework too while you pay the bills. Some families have to work that way. Not everyone has Prada.
2007-02-15 22:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of pastor is he that he doesn't follow the Bible himself? Man is to be the head of the home/family just like Christ is the head of the Church. It sounds like he may have just got married to make himself appear more "pastorlike" - to gain the trust of his congregation without actually becoming a "husband" or "father" first. I would give him an ultimatum - either get a job where he can support his family or answer to his "congregation" how he's going to minister to them when he can't even keep his own marriage/family together.
2007-02-16 06:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most pesters are scrounger and the more the claim to serve the congregation only the more they are blood-suckers. There is no point at all of sending a candle to the church while your own house is in total darkness. There is no god who orders such kind of stupidity.
Leave the sponger and be independent, after all you have been supporting the family on your own, including the dude, why not without him. It will be only less one person, a free loader.
All the best!/
2007-02-16 06:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely right. The only thing you can do that is right in the eyes of God is support your husband and pray for him. Do not tell anybody in the congregation though. Stick by him and be the wife like the husband he is not. Find someting in the bible that supports your side of the situation. That is all the advice I have at the moment. I have always heard that being a preachers wife is hard but doesn't go unseen. Godd sees your sacrifices too. Don't forget that it is his mistakes and not God's. Pray about it! God Bless!
2007-02-16 06:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by david r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible tells us that a man who neglects his family is the same as an "infidel". Your husband may have his responsibilities, but he also has a family to care for and should be doing so. It is not ethical for him to preach on how others should live, when he is not doing the same himself.
If your husbands salary is more than enough to meet your families financial needs, but yet you are forced to work just so that your family can survive, it is time for you to sit your husband down and tell him how you feel. And if he is responsive to you, then you will have your problem resolved.
If your husband is NOT responsive to you, then you can take your case to the elders of the church and let them know that your husband is neglecting his financial responsibilies to his family. According to Biblical scripture, they will be forced to take action. I pray that it does not come to this, but your husband needs to do what is right. And God will be the judge of him.
2007-02-16 06:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears, as usual, that he does not practice what he preaches. If he is of no use to the family, he cannot do any meaningful work for the church or the congregation. We appreciate his honesty and his work, but he has one more duty to perform, a duty to provide for his family. Tell him, if he fails in his duty, all his other work will come to a naught.
2007-02-16 07:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must set his priorities right:
1. God
2. Family
(great distance)
3. Work
4. Church
2007-02-16 06:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by WithEnlightenmentTheDarknessCame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't the congregation see that he needs money to live on?
Tough situation. Pray that God will provide. Your husband is not acting Christ-like -- he is not looking out for those that are his.
2007-02-16 06:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like it's you who is looking after the congregation by providing for him. Ask the congregation for help, then. They can give small part of what is going to church to you directly.
2007-02-16 06:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A Pastor of what sect? Leaving his family destitute? He obviously has mislead you. Charity begins at home.
2007-02-16 06:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by jaypea40 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋