There's a lot of stress on you right now with all the thought of transitioning to a new life. Let me just reassure you that it's normal. That's important for you to realize.
Take a deep breath and really think about how the relationship has lasted as long as it has. Is there a bond that you can't seem to let go of? Is there a connection between you that gets you past all the bullsh**?
I have no idea why he would keep such things from you, but maybe he's got a troubled history that he's ashamed of. That might explain why he's not near any family or wants to pull you far away. It's a tough decision, but make sure you do it for yourself and not for him. I can only say that now a lot of the truth has been exposed, some of the pressure he might have had about his past should be gone. Hopefully that's a sign that he'll be more open from now on.
Talk to him straight up. Ask him why he feels the way he does about you. Let him know how you're feeling, what you're thinking about, and how important it is to be honest with each other. You can tell from his reaction whether or not the long-term committment is going to be worth it.
2007-02-15 22:14:03
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answered by SirCharles 6
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Depends how much those lies effect u and ur relationship with him. Some lies r trivial and canbe overlooked. Its different fr everybody. What matters to me may not to u,if u know what i mean.
determine how important thats for u.If u can perhaps verlook his faults and not let it bother u. If u can, then marry him, otherwise move on. 2 yrs is a long time.
But not a lifetime, imagine it could be worse, it has happened to ppl i know, and theyre miserable. Moving away is OK if u feel comfortable with the idea. If u trust him then no problem. I somehow think u dont, u wouldnt have doubts otherwise enough to ask ques..........
2007-02-15 22:17:39
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answered by saltnsaffron 5
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You don't know him!!!! Everything that he told you was a lie. Are you sure that he isn't covering something up? A friend of ours when thru this too, only his gf was swindling money from people. She was taking loans out in his parents names, overcharged on car loans (she worked for a car dealership in finance), bought extended warranties for people that never got them, etc. This whole time he was in the dark to what she was doing. Everything she said seemed true.
BE CAREFUL! If you catch him in another lie, be done! Do not move in with him right now or accept the engagement untill you know the real him!
2007-02-15 22:06:01
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answered by Jo 6
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Well I don't like the idea that this guy lies a lot I mean if he tells you he lost his parents did you ever ask him why he did so? And also to marry him you have to move far away from where you live now? I wouldn't marry him
2007-02-15 22:04:19
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answered by kathmrc 3
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'All is fair in love and war', if he has told u lies about his job, name, parents etc. it is trivial. Has he lied to u about his character, did he ever two time u ? Have u found him in bed with another women ?
Boys sometimes tell lies about job, name, parents etc. sometimes I do it, so the girl does not stick to me, when I do not need her. There may be other reason. It has no relevance in a relation. Don't behave childishly. If u suspect he does not love u, or has fallen for some other women, then leave him.
2007-02-15 22:10:11
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answered by wizard of the East 7
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You love this guy but it doesnt mean the relationship is right...with lying to you and now wanting you to move far away you need to find out the real truth of what is going on before you make any more commitment to this relationship....good luck
2007-02-15 23:21:28
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answered by Renee 4
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u said it urself u cant commit to someone if ur not sure about it.....if u doubt in a relationship u shud not get married.marriage is 100% commitment, honesty, trust, love.....say now u get married to him and u found out more lies what then? i know u love him but u can get a guy who is honest and everything u want and luv him just as much or even more....gud luck and be carefull of getting hurt.
2007-02-15 22:14:26
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answered by Anonymous
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For my (very virtually) 50 years a finished of 6 places!! 9 a million/2 years (present day homestead - even as divorced) 2 years (homestead - even as separated) 17 years (homestead we equipped) 2 years (cellular homestead - even as i become first married) 14 years (homestead w/mothers and fathers) 5 years (homestead w/mothers and fathers) I actual have an aunt who has lived in 7 places in below 4 years, and is making waiting to pass lower back!!!!
2016-11-23 12:36:11
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answered by shery 4
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better to have wasted two years than the rest of your life. when you are in the wrong relationship and stay in it, years go by and before you know it your life has past you by. If you feel like you do and are not sure, don't do something unless you are 100 percent sure because you only have one life to live.
2007-02-15 22:03:16
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answered by Miranda C 3
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Too many lies i'ld rather be more cautiousin your position. He needs help i mean psychological. Lies abt your family and wanting to move very far from where u live......? These are clues u need to look into.
2007-02-15 22:17:53
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answered by Naughty 2
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