It's been 5 months since the man I was with left me and I am having such a hard time letting go and moving on. Need some helpful advice.
2007-02-15 21:49:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a class or two. Go out with friends; make new friends. Stop dwelling on the past. Being left by someone you love will hurt, but after 5 months, you need to actively get your life back on track. And you need to do it now because the longer you wait the more difficult it will be. I'm not suggesting you get back into dating right away, but you need to start doing things and start living again.
2007-02-15 21:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us have been in that situation. The one who leaves a lrelationship first goes off unscathed. The one that remains behind gets all the hurt. Mostly a matter of the ego being confronted by failure. If one is not wanted any more it hurts. Took me three years to recover from such a situation. Others get over it in no time and still others in decades. No advice can be given.
Just go on with your life, involve yourself into your interests, activities, work or school and sooner or later somebody else will strike your fancy. And that'll be the end of it. And a new beginning.
2007-02-15 22:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had the same thing happen to me but i was supposed to get married. While I was serving a tour in Iraq i got a dear John letter. I wondered the same question. It takes time. It took me about 8 months to get over it. I'm now married to a wonderful man. Everything happens for a reason and all the times that it really hurts and sucks you end up benefiting from t in some way or another. So, stop trying to let him go and let it happen on its own.
2007-02-23 13:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing more you can do, he lefted and you'll have to face it sure it would be hard but he's gone and probably not coming back. I have many troubles with my father he was always leaving and then coming back but i've realised that i can't always have the hope that he will come back so i've moving on and i now know my fathers ways. There's not much i can do about it and i know that and accept it. you'll have to accept that this man left you, it may take time but try and talk about and soon you will move on.
hope it helps
2007-02-15 21:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is simple, go out, go to the movie, go on date, meet people (boys), talk to boys, have fun. Live life to the full. U will definitely meet someone 100 times better than the man that has left u, who will love u a lot and treat u as a sex goddess and keep u very happy. Just give him a chance.
2007-02-15 21:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety its always hard to let go of someone u loved,and no matter what u do it might always hurt,but u will find out a way which makes it easier for u to handle..and the best thing to do in a situation like that,is getting away from from all of that,give yourself some alonetime,.write your feelings down,and go somewhere for a few days when it is possible,just to get a clear head,and to find yourself again....
i dont know if that will help u what i said,but i hope u will find a way,and something that will ease your pain.
good luck
2007-02-15 21:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by lady in black 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left u he isn't worth crying over anymore. And u deserve more, always remember that.
If u love someone set it free.........
So set him free, even from ur heart, it wasnt meant tobe.
U will find soemone who loves u enough to never leave u.
And thats the kind of love u need and deserve.
There are always good things to be learnt from a relationship. And of course bad ones too, mistakes u wouldnt want to repeat.So learn from ur mistakes. Remember the good times but dont mess up ur life over it.
Move on!
Life is much more.........it has more to offer u than u have now........maybe even better than u ever had.........just keep looking.
Good luck!
2007-02-15 22:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't care about u girl, don't give him the satisfaction of holding u up. I''m sure ur attractive so put on some nice 4 inch boots and hot outfit and go out with some of ur friends. I don't know how it's been half a year and u still arent over hi yet especially when he didn't love you or care enough about u to want to work it out.
He's not worth it. moving on is as easy as it sounds just move on cause know he has defiently moved on himself
2007-02-15 22:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by lamikashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of time. While the time passes, do something to keep your mind off him. Go out with friends or maybe find a new guy if your ready. Dont get drunk because you'll turn into one of those crying phone dialing drunks.
2007-02-15 21:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ashleigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that helps. Dont try too hard to get over him. But dont set yourself up to think about him either.
I took 3 years to get over my last relationship! I sometimes thought, the nightmare would never be over. But thank god it is now.
2007-02-15 21:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by bourbon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋