Can you be with someone long term who you are intellectually incompatible with?
I have a b/f who I love very much. He is everything I've ever wanted except for one thing, we are not intellectually compatible.
He is very simple and simple minded. I am a deep thinker and a very analytical person. I get frustrated at times and sometimes feel I'm alone b/c of this.
However, he is faithful, takes great care of me, we are very sexually compatible, share the same values, both very spiritual, have a great time hanging out together, like a lot of the same things, etc. He is a great emotional support for me.
I have dated men who are intellectual but they did not have all of the great characteristics my b/f has, and were not near as sensitive to my needs.
Please help!
2007-02-15 21:38:19 · 5 answers · asked by Ummm.....yeah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your reading too much into this be happy with what you have ( he sounds like a dream to me) btw he may think the same of you (not intellectually compatible) but still loves you and remember intelligence comes in many forms
2007-02-15 21:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a family where my father was super smart and could do almost anything he put his mind to. He married my mother who whilst she was kind and hard working, she took no interest in the world or learning or understanding. Whatever physical attraction was there when they first met, had long faded by the time I came into the world. I think that when the first flush of romance fades and your relationship becomes one of friendship and companionship, you need to bring more to a relationship than just physical intimacy. We grew up with our father alternatively demeaning our mother for her lack of knowledge and then trying to play " teacher" in a superior way. This, of course, is only my experience and only you know what your true feelings are with regard to your boyfriend. He sounds like he has many fine qualities and of course , it is possible to find outlets to stimulate your intellectual side. How does he feel about all this? Does he feel that you both have a lot in common?
2007-02-15 21:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess Opposites attract, as long as you love each other the better, who would want an intellectual person who is not loyal to you.
2007-02-15 21:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by jon_yao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, no, but every relationship is different
2007-02-15 21:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can work, but you can't treat him like a dumba#$ or it won't work.
2007-02-15 22:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋