? For Men. . . Do many men (not all) not know how to handle a decent woman because they are used to meeting...

Question

I meet men who it's soon revealed of them to be all ' handsy ' and of lower emotional heart intelligence when coming to know each in the first couple dates.

I am a woman of value, quality, interest, funny, keen mind, good heart, found to be attractive and of experience as I'm 50...yet I keep meeting men as those above. When I do...I very soon end the relationship not desiring to know more of them.

I've read on this site that it's rare to meet a woman as I'm found to be. Which led me to this question.

Do some men treat women in a crude, devaluing sense when first dating them as they are used to many other women they've met before to equally behave in a crude, devaluing manner.

Do men behave in a crude way because they arn't used to a woman of quality and don't know how to respectfully behave when first coming to know them ? By the time they figure out that she truly is a woman of quality...they are out of the relationship because of their behavior.

How do men behave?

Answer 1

Yes, it is sometimes like this, but mostly it us who set the terms of the relationship. If we clarify, in the first instance, what type of relationship we are looking for, the opposite party also react accordingly. We draw the line, we set the standard. It is take it or leave it, for the opposite party. Generally, we attract them, whom we deserve, and our relationship takes the direction, as per the course set by us.

Answer 2

I would also recommend buying a ladies set of golf clubs, but not for swing reasons. There are many PGA pros that started at a young age with adult clubs. I've seen women's shafts on men's drivers. I still see fairway woods that are made out of wood, so the point of playing, especially if you are not that serious about it which by the way ... you will be because it's so addicting, is not all that valid. It takes a very long time to learn the correct way to swing a golf club. The reason I recommend buying a beginner's women's set is that the used set, although it sounds nice to get taylormade irons, is not such a great deal. You have to consider the age of the shafts (I almost got hit with a 3 wood head today that flew off an old set of Mcgregor clubs), the cost of regripping, and the cost of a new set. They sell new 'last year' sets fairly cheap. Make sure to check Ebay for new clubs from last year. Maybe if you find a great deal on beginner ladies clubs, you can buy a set of beginner mens clubs as well.

Answer 3

First of all, come down from your horse. It's good to have a positive self image I suppose, but damn! The problem with ego is it is a short trip to delusion.
Sounds like you are dating the wrong guys. I don't think trearing women in a crude, devaluing way is very good dating etiquette. Find men who appreciate the same things you enjoy. If you're so refined you should be able to meet them at art openings, social fiunctions, lunch at Tiffany's, etc.

Answer 4

Some men may treat "high quality" women in a bad way because they are used to "low quality" women. More than that though I think some men just don't know how to treat women.

I am thankful that I had a good mom and Dad who showed and modeled to me how a man should treat a woman. I try to treat women the same way that I would want that woman to treat me. Sometimes women don't know how to respond to that and end up taking advantage of me. It works both ways I guess.

Answer 5

I am a young woman who like urself respects my body and find a man who can do nothing but talk about sex, very very unattractive. I'm 21 and I know for a fact, having asked a few men myself, that many women especially around my age, to say it nicely don't hold themselves to the standards our mothers held themselves at. I'm sure that women who are this way by nature do not change and continue to do the same thing in they're 40's and 50's

Answer 6

This issue is also true of some women

The percentages represented here are how much of themselves a person can give. After all, as John Lennon put it, the love you receive should be equal to the love that you give
10% Love no one including themselves
20% Love their own self only
30% Love their own self but only for sex.
40% “All women are the same”
50% Engages in a relationship but only if they are “the boss”
60% “The Player”. Love is a game. Tells you anything you want to hear to gain access. Mind games, ego trips, and power plays. Some partners retaliate with their own games.
70% Big improvement. Realizes that love is not about competing against one another but about cooperation. Partners are co-equal. Doesn’t try to change the other, accepts them for who they are.
80% Soul love begins. Each partner cares about the feelings of the other as much as they care about their own.
90% Divine love begins, true intimacy is achieved. Souls become One.
100% The two souls that have become one, in turn become One with God. Love each other as God loves us ---- unconditionally.

Note – “Intimacy” does not mean, as many people believe, “to have sex”. It is a Greek word which means, “to fully expose ones soul to another”, to which I will add, “warts and all, without fear of judgment or retaliation”.

Note – Most people are in the10% - 60% range and are ego/physical dominate, driven by the need for fame, fortune, power or prestige. They have a tendency to be selfish vs selflessness of soulful people. This is in sharp contrast to people 70% and higher

The problem here is that people who have a healthy respect and are soulfully inclined don’t have many other like minded people to choose from. One usually won’t find them in their own neighborhood, or city, or state. And some will settle for an ego dominate partner, that’s when the heartaches begin.

Answer 7

Some men haven't grown up and act worse than a teenage boy with raging hormones. "Testosterone" is their middle name.

Answer 8

woman get very angry at me because l treat them good, but l wait to long before the touchy feely stuff.

Answer 9

I agree

Answer 10

very individualistic..cant be generalised