I have this professor who I REALLLLY like. He stares at my chest constantly, and my legs, winks at me, and seems to just generally flirt alot. He totally acts like he's interested in me, but at the same time he's really nervous, and seems like he's scared of being alone with me. Whenever we run into eachother unexpectadly on campus he looks like he's going to have a heart attack. I don't understand, I've given him dozens of oppurtunities. Maybe he's dense? He's married, so I don't know if that's why he's acting this way. I guess I'm asking all the guys out there if they think it sounds like he'd be willing to cheat on his wife to be with me, or if he's not interested because of his vows. If yes, any ideas for asking him?
2007-02-15 21:18:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a guy but i can make a suggestion. First of all, wait until the semester ends lol this could cause some awkward moments. I say you find an opportunity to chat in an area thats neither too public or inappropriate so that he can feel comfortable knowing that he hasn't made any mistakes yet. You need to ask him what it all means... You need to ask him about his wife/kids/whatever and see if he's really serious about this. You never know, maybe he hasnt even thought of the consequences of it and he's really just feeling this fantasy of you and him to stay just that. If this is all for a sexual encounter- one year from now you will both regret it.
2007-02-15 21:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by harmonize 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a second not only is this guy married, but he is your Professor. If he did or tried anything with you he would be putting his marriage at risk, not to mention his job. He may like you are a student and that is it. Nothing sure happen between the two of you and are you willing to risk his career and break up his marriage just because you THINK that he likes you.
Also do you think so little of yourself that you are willing to be a bit on the side? Find yourself a guy that is single and will be able to give you all the attention you need. Don't you think that you are worth it?
2007-02-15 21:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you know your professor on a personal, deep level, I highly doubt you REALLLLY like him. And if you're using that kind of an all-caps word, then maybe you need to asess why you're in school in the first place.
He's horny. A lot of men are, he's not going to condescend to be with you on any level that you will ever need. He, at the most, would have an affair with you. Is that what you want? It will lead to shame and guilt for the both of you for a lifetime.
He has a wife. A woman that fell in love and was fallen in love with by your professor. How would you feel?
Don't let petty sex-driven ambitions destroy lives. Grow up and stop making college aged girls look like whores. Thanks, darling.
2007-02-15 21:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by firefly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. Yes, i'm referring to you. He is a married man. Think about what your asking? And you say you've given him many opportunities. Don't you realise the pain you would cause by having a meaningless fling? That's all it is. You have lust for him whilst he has been married for a while. Grow up little girl. You should not entice the man and if he comes on to you reject him. You will find more men out there that aren't married. So unless you want to ruin a marriage, i'd suggest you don't take this man on no matter how much you "really like him".
2007-02-15 21:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by chris c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds that you are trying to seduce him. He very well may be attracted to you, but trying to keep from compromising his ethics and/or losing his job and marriage. When you grow up you may come to realize the selfishness of your question and disregard for his wife at home. You may even appreciate the fact that he resisted your sexual overtures. Especially if/when you have children of your own and concern over them being seduced by an older person in a position of public trust. Next semester, enroll in an ethics course and see if that helps expand your knowledge on the subject. I don't think there are any electives for Moral Character 101.
2007-02-15 21:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looking at this situation, I think that this professor is thinking that you are hitting on him. That is why he becomes nervous when you both run into each other. I think, not this man but probably you are after him, so leave him alone and find someone else from the boys of your age in the class-room.
2007-02-15 21:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Pirate of the Bassein Creek 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe Professor wants perks of the Job. Maybe Bunny needs to stay away from him. Maybe Professor gets what he wants. And moves on. Remember, he's gettin' some for his WIFE!!!
2007-02-15 21:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's digging you, but when the opportunity arises, he's not sure how to handle the situation, he's unsure of what he should do, or what you want him to do, everyone can flirt, but some guys dont' have the slick way of handling these kinds of situations. It's probably crossed his mind more than once to cheat on his wife, but things are gonna get very awkward in class..
2007-02-15 21:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He may not want to be alone with you because you an attractive girl and he feels like you like him and does not want to risk his job or marriage... and why would you want him too... just hope you get an easy A out of it!
2007-02-15 21:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by ms.jackson... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing and not tempt the poor man. Many men like to "window shop" but never intend to buy. Leave him alone!!!
2007-02-15 21:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋