(Before you ask, he hasn't got a number that I can call)
Three months ago I met a guy off an internet chatroom. I'm 16 and he was 25. When we met he seemed to like and kept telling me I was really pretty. I liked him a lot, both looks and personality. We arranged to meet again that evening but he was busy with family. He phoned me the following week and said that he was busy at work and I understood. I haven't seen him since that day, he hasn't called either and I wonder why. I think I really love him and I do feel a bit used. Has he forgotten about me or was I being taken for a ride? Loads of other guys have approached me since but I feel he's the only one I want.
All feedback appreciated :)
2007-02-15 21:07:17 · 45 answers · asked by bubbly_child 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you were being "taken for a ride," as you put it. Besides, he's 25, and sounds like he's married (family?). Find another guy, cuz this one is a waste of your time, and I think you already know that.
2007-02-15 21:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have any idea what you're talking about or even doing?
You sound like a very silly little girl!
You shouldn't meet ANYONE off an internet chatroom. Especially at your age! Even adults are advised to take extreme precaution. How can you be in love with someone you barely know. Meeting up this guy has maybe shocked him into how immature you are. You have a lot of growing up to do. A man of 25 will not want to date a 16 year old girl unless he has some serious immoral issues. He hasn't called because he has realised how being with you would make him look like a pervert!
Do your parents know your doing things like this???????
Do you want to end up another statistic.... of how a young girl meets up with men from internet chatrooms and ends up getting raped and/or murdered.
If I was your mum then I would not let you use the internet again until you knew how to use it safely and properly.
Very, very silly girl!!!
2007-02-21 07:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bubbly, let tell you forget him, you cannot fall in love by meeting a guy on the internet chatroom. You think you are in love, cause he has been saying and doing the right things with you and say things that you want to hear, You are at a vulnerable age. In the other answers you have received, believe me you are old enough to be my daughter, and being a woman i am telling you forget him, he is probably married or has a girlfriend he is living with, you are too young, he has experiences in life, which you haven't even come across, so please do yourself a favour, go with you friends of your own age, and if people are asking you out, go for it, you need fun, promise me you will go out with others, don't stop your life cause of this guy, i bet he hasn't stopped his life cause of you. You have a long way to go before you find someone who you really love, you are still very young, you will find someone who will treat you special, and won't give you silly excuses. Forget him Bubbly, be a bubbly person and go out and have fun, sod him. Good luck. email me what you have decided. Ruksana.patel@rhm.com
2007-02-15 23:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Things can seem very intense over the internet and when you meet face to face, sometimes it just doesn't match up. Perhaps he was not expecting you to look / act / be so young. Perhaps he met you out of curiosity and you just weren't what he was looking for. Perhaps his wife found out and banned him from going back out that night. So many imponderables - but face it, it just isn't going to happen. Look on it as a lesson learned - don't give your heart away so easily to someone you really know nothing about. Be very sure you know someone a lot, lot better than this before you fall in love.
Oh, and if I were you, I would change your screen name - there are some strange people out there who might be intrigued by it. Keep yourself safe!
2007-02-15 21:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok hun first off - he is WAY too old for you and shouldnt have encouraged a friendship between ye once he knew what age you were - Im not being discriminating against you or anything - but really there is a big age gap there.
This could possibly be why hes avoiding you - maybe when he met you he realised the obviousness of the age gap but didnt want to upset you by telling you so is trying to let you down gently.
Im sure you dont really love him - its just infactuation.
I think it would be better for you to date these guys your own age that are approaching you and try forget about this guy.
xx
2007-02-15 22:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a tricky one,first you,ve only known him 3 mths,could he be telling you everything,he has been busy on the two occasions you have planned to meet,this could be because he's married,got kids,or already got a girlfriend,why hasn't he given you his number,second is it a real good idea to meet someone you have met in a chat room,especially when your only 16,im not trying to patronise you,i hope you do sort it out,im just saying think really hard first,he could be genuine,but from what you've said,i dont think he is.
2007-02-15 21:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A 25 year old man has no business calling or meeting up with a 16 year old girl. As far as him being busy with family it is possible that he couldn't get away from his wife and kids. You are better off spending time with boys your own age. If your still confused maybe you should discuss this with your parents.
2007-02-23 19:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by PHEOBE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually, this type of age difference is big - it's NOT like saying you are 25 and he's 34. You should be very wary of such guys and assume that they only have sex on their minds. Whatever the reason when someone wants to be with you he finds the time and makes the effort. For what it's worth, I think he does like you and find you beautiful, but he considered the complications and hurdles of such a relationship and decided to pass, which is what every guy his age should do in a similar situation. Don't take it personally.
2007-02-15 21:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Probably not the answer that you want to hear, but I dont think he is interested in you. If he was he would have made more of an effort to contact you. At 16 you are young and free, instead of hanging up on this, look at the posatives, you have a lot going for you, forget about him, and move on find someone who will treat you correctly, with respect and consideration you deserve
2007-02-15 21:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say but the only reason why I could think of why he has not called you is because you are under age and he might go to jail just for talking to u on the Internet. Have you ever watched dateline NBC? Well that is becoming a popular show for the predators and he maybe thinks that you are one of the decoys who work for the show..
2007-02-15 21:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by kita 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋