is this wrong?? i need advice??

Question

I need advice???
would it be wrong of me to send my ex an email an tell him how i feel to see if there is any chnce for us before i move on??
i still love him
we have been apart for nearly a year. is it too late???
and should i tell him all my feelings or just come out and ask simply if hed give us another chance???
we have had contact over the year and he has been driving past my house but he said it was coz he was worried bout me....
we were together for 4.5 years he is 30 and i am 23.

do i email him and tell him i miss you or tell him all o my feelings for him???

we broke up coz we started to fight over stupid things all the time

Answer 1

I'd just come out and ask him if he'd be willing to give it another try. This is probably best done in person, not via email.

Answer 2

I've been in the same position, however, I was lucky enough for us to get back together after a year apart. Do little tests first to see if he still has feeling for you! See how he reacts when you talk to guys or when you look extra hot. Once you have a clear view of things and think he still has feelings for you, give it a shot! If it works out it's meant to be, if it's not then just move on! Good Luck

Answer 3

Stop and think. If you get back together, you'll likely break up again for the same reasons. Habits are really hard to break and this guy might be a habit. Dissolve all contact with him. It'll make the process of moving on easier.

Answer 4

question:
why did you all start to "fight over stupid things all the time"?

it's a gd qn to ask yourselves, as what you said, implied that there was a certain communication breakdown, as both of you have started fighting over small things.

if that is so, don't let your emotions cloud your thinking. ask yourself, is it wise to go back? and the probable thing is both of you may likely get hurt once again.

i guess, the wise thing to do, (in my humble opinion lah) is to cleave a clean break and start to move on cleanly and completely frm this episode. then after both of u have moved on, if a friendship is possible, why not... but of cos, if it isn't, then.. oh wells....

hmm, i guess, let your mind do the thinking and the decision making of whether you wd want to re-start your relationship. let it be a rational and logical one, rather than an emotional one, as emotions make us do impulsive things at times, which may not always be the best.

if you do choose to re-start it, do factor in the qn at the beginning of this post...

yeap... all the best!

:)

Answer 5

i think that you should tell him, if he drives past your house just to see if you are alright then he obviously still has feelings for you, me and my partner split for half a year and now we have been back for over a year and we are happy. time doesn't make any differance it could have been one day. tell him exactly how you feel because if you don't you will regret and wonder what if, for the rest of your life

Answer 6

Your ex is your ex for a reason. Unless you want a second helping of what you had the first time around, I'd say it's better to move on.

Answer 7

im just curious, why did you two broke up? if he is worried bout you, it means he still care. I think you should at least give it a shot. tell him that you miss him and you still think there's a chance for the two of you. being honest of what you feel is one courageous act, and i'll commend you if you do that. one great love is worth risking your feelings.

Answer 8

Sure, why not? Just be open about your feeling. If he disagrees with you then you will be able to get over him and you wont be blaming yourself for having not tried. Remember the greatest regrets are the risks we did not take.

Answer 9

Well, you should tell him what you really feel about him. It may not be too late if he is not in other serious relationship. So tell him and see what he is up to. He may have the same feeling about you.

Good luck!!

Answer 10

it gets more awkward second time around. give him a number he can call u on and give him a TIME LIMIT to respond in, if he comes back, hz yours, if he duznt, he never was. sometimes you ahve to let go of people, it duznt have to be nasty n painful, just take his memories like a rose petals in ur hands and blow them away to hte wind.all the best!