Request for Gifts In Your Wedding Invitations?

Question

I am getting married soon and as I already live with my partner I want to request money instead of gifts. I know that there are poems asking for this (in a nice way) does anyone know where I can find them?

Answer 1

This is a really great and practical idea, don't let anyone tell you it's Tacky or Wrong, your guests will be pleased that you have made things easier for them, and it's never seen as a demand for money!

Remember that your guest want to get you a gift that you will like!

Here are a few Ideas for you to look at;

Invitation Script 1
Friends, as you are aware we already have most items needed to 'set up house'. This is the reason for us choosing a wedding wishing well. At the reception there will be a wishing well in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution. This will be a great way for us to pool together and buy ourselves something quite luxurious, or to make our honeymoon even better.

Invitation Script 2
To support us on our special day you may wish to follow with tradition and bring a gift. Or alternatively you may like to help us make our honeymoon a little more special. For this reason we have chosen a wedding wishing well. The wishing well will be at the reception where we can receive your best wishes and contribution.

Invitation Script 3
They have their dishes and towels for two
They have pots and pans and oven mitts too
So what do you get for the Bride & Groom
Whose house is setup in every room?
Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too
But you can not register for carpet and glue.
A well that holds wishes is the way to go
So lets make it easy for all that know.
An envelope will be provided for those who have room,
To give a monetary wish to the Bride and Groom
A wishing well will be on display at the reception hall
To attach your wishes, for the couple, with love from all.

Invitation Script 4
Because at first we lived in sin
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!

Invitation Script 5
More than just kisses so far we've shared,
Our home has been made with Love and Care,
Most things we need we've already got,
And in our home we can't fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish .... but shhh don't tell!
Once we've replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we're sure
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Invitation Script 6
Soon you will hear our wedding bell,
As Friends and family wish us well.
Our household thoughts are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two.
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
We're having instead a wishing well wedding.
But more important we ask of you,
your prayers of love and blessings too!

Invitation Script 7
This wishing well is here today for family and friends. Take an
envelope, make a wish and please drop it in. As it falls into the
well your wish, for the couple, will come true. A token for the
couple, to help them begin, will be welcomed, too. Please take the
time to make a wish before the day is through.

Invitation Script 8
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
we have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
We require a house for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a gift,
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our 'Wishing Well'
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.

Invitation Script 9
Our home is quite complete now,
we've been together long,
so please consider our request and do not take us wrong.
A delicate request it is, we hope you understand.
Please play along as it will give our married life a hand.
The tradition of the wishing well is one that's known by all.
Go to the well, toss in a coin and as the coin does fall,
Make a wish upon that coin and careful as you do.
Cause as the well's tradition goes your wishes will come true.
So on this special day of ours, the day that we'll be wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts but give money in it's stead.
And as you drop the envelope with money great and small,
Remember, make your wish as you watch your money fall.

Invitation Script 10
"We've been together a few years now;
we have pots and pans and linen and towels;
we have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
so instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you;
if it doesn't offend and it won't send you running;
what we would really appreciate is quite simply money;
we know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
and this way there is no chance of bringing the same."
What do you think?

Invitation Script 11
"If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way."

Invitation Script 12
"We really would appreciate a little money of our own,
instead of a little gift for our new home!"
We know you want to find something nice
But it's such a hassle to find the right price
So come and enjoy the day all sunny
We really would appreciate a little money.

Invitation Script 13
To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all of that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with

Hope This Helps!

Answer 2

No, I'm sorry, but there is no nice way to request money (or any other gift) in the wedding invitation. The fact that it's said in a poem doesn't make it any less rude.

Most people are going to bring you money and checks anyway. The few who do want to bring you physical gifts will call to find out where you're registered, at which time they can be told that you aren't registered anywhere and don't want physical gifts.

Let this spread by word of mouth. Do not be rude enough to (1) tell your guests that you expect a gift at all (they are optional, you know), and (2) tell them what they have to give you.

Answer 3

Sorry it is ill mannered and a thousand times worse in poem form. Some may not agree but recently I was at a course and in the evening we were all sitting in a group of 24 and various topics were coming up and this was one of them. Only 1 person out of 24 thought it would be okay to do this. What does that tell you? Incidentally the age group was from 17 -51yrs. Guests will ask yourselves or family and if your home is well furnished and they suggest a money gift they can told that would be fantastic as you are doing such and such a thing eg landscaping and can put it towards it. I often give money but believe me would not take kindly to being asked for it. Also have you thought some of your guests may not have the ready cash and had intended buying your gift by credit card/store card. Think about the embarrassing position you are putting them in. Hope your wedding is fantastic. PS Should say with VERY close family as in mums, dads, brothers, sisters asking for the cash okay as they would be familiar enough to tell you if they couldn't afford it but with general guests NO

Answer 4

their are no nice poems because its not nice to do that! You never dictate what people can and can't do with their time and money, its theirs to spend and if they are willing to take the time, energy, and money to purchase a gift for you then you should be grateful that they thought of you enough to do that, even if it is your 11th toaster!

Also, it is not appropriate to mention gifts in ANY way on the wedding invitation even if it was for your registry or whatever, the purpose of the wedding invitation is to invite people to celebrate your union with you, not to solicit gifts! PLEASE get that strait! No one has to get you anything, money or gift, and by putting that on the wedding invite it looks as if you expect that they do have to get you something which is WRONG! and highly tacky....the tradition of people giving wedding gifts is a nice perk, not a right!

I reccomend that you don't register anywhere and when people ask let them know that you would prefer money to buy _______ (make somethin up if you don't know, people are more apt to give $$ if they know it has a purpose) Please don't tarnish your wedding invites with gift solicitations, not everyone will feel the same way as I do, but TONS will, and you will surely come out worse puttin it in writing.

I completely understand about needing money, me and my fiance just bought a house and are on foundation for a floor, and believe me-grimy cement is not fun, and we sure would love to get enough $$ to install carpeting sooner, but we both know its wrong to put that on and invite, and I hope you realize that too!

Answer 5

No. This is rude and tacky. You need to cruise this site a bit more, and find all the other times brides-to-be have asked this, and their responses! People who attend a wedding don't "have" to bring gifts; however, most do because they want to give something to the new couple starting out. It's not their "fault" you were already shacked up.
Be grateful for what and if people give you. If you need money for the wedding or honeymoon, or whatever else, you and your bf need to amend your plans, or save longer.

Answer 6

I'm sorry - but i think i would be offended if someone invited me to be part of their special day and then asked me for £££.

You can tell people you would rather have £££ than gifts and the word will soon spread around.

If you are sticking with this idea though - you could search the internet or try writing one of your own?

Answer 7

I hate when ppl say this is tacky! Everyone has a different situation so this isnt at all tacky or rude. You can go to verseit.com and they have tons of ways to word every type of event and they also have a section on how to word things if you just want money and nothing else.

My Fiance and i also live together and we decided to have a "Honeymoon Shower" not a "Wedding Shower because then we would get stuff for the hosue which we dont need. So if you guys are going on a Honeymoon then this might work and the invites our say...

Please join us for a Honeymoon Shower Honoring
________________.

The Couplde are Honeymooning in ________ after they tie the knot. Lets help them make that trip come true.

and then you put down the time, date and address of the event. it doesnt have to be worded exactly like this but im more than positive that ppl will either give you money or contribute towards your honyemoon although it isnt directly asking them to give you money. Hope this helped!

Answer 8

Why not say you have all the household goods you need and ask for contributions towards your honeymoon, and give them the address and details of the travel agent. Some friends of mine did this and no one minded, some even added money for the spends.
Alternatively you could ask for contributions towards an expensive item like a new TV, sofa, washer etc add a picture of it to your invitation and make prior arrangements with the firm.

Answer 9

It is not wrong to ask for money. In fact, in countries such as Spain it is expected and I'm am sure that there are many more countries that do the same. I had a look, but can't seem to find anything appropriate.
What about, instead of a poem, something along the lines of:-

The couple respectfully request that contributions be made to a communal pot for future consideration.

To save you the problem of finding a gift, and us the problem of not showing appreciation as we should. we would be grateful if you would allow us to actually buy our own wedding presents. In order to assist us in this, contributions to a communal pot would be greatly appreciated.

You wouldn't even have to have it printed on the actual invitation. This request could be put on a seperate piece of paper inside.

Good luck and be happy

Answer 10

Im getting married in October and my mummys family and friends have asked her what do we need she just told them we have everything for our house so money would probably be better, every one of them was happy with this as it saved them going out and looking for a gift to get us, my fella told his mum the same but she's such a cow anyway she told us to appreciate whatever we got and not to be so rude in asking for money, you just cant win with her

If you have understanding family like me a word or so from your mum or sister to let them know money would be better should do the trick

Answer 11

this question is asked nearly every day on this
asking for money and presents is terrible, if people give you something then be grateful but dont ask
lots of people, including me, wouldnt even entertain an invitation with a give me money poem inside