My bf can be a jerk big time.. he is caring yes, but then thats the way he is to his cat too so means nothing at all.. He didnt give me anything on valentines and when i gave something, he was visibly upset! Does he not like gifts because he is not commited to the relationship ? and even if he doesnt like them, why didnt he give me any? why? even though he knows i like gifts...
2007-02-15 19:18:25 · 15 answers · asked by Sarah S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's cheap. Either give up the gift idea or find someone as generous as you are.
2007-02-15 19:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by trai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing I wish people would understand about gift giving is not to take it personally. I grew up in a house where gift giving was almost non existent. why? my father was a big time saver on a fairly modest income. he ended up accumulating a decent sum..but the point is, sometimes it is a thing from his past so you MUST cut him some slack. You also need to learn that giving a gift should be selfless or you should not give. Giving should be unconditional! You may receive many gifts from him that you don't even realize. Why could you not honor what he wanted..no gifts? He is getting upset for a reason. Maybe he is trying to save money and all these gifts blows that plan. back off. And who cares what you like. Giving gifts is about the other person, not you!!!
2007-02-15 19:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he never really treasure your relationship, any men out there if they are engaged into a relationship and love dand cherish it the least ting they do is give their gf a present even not just on valentines day or any special occasion. it is very normal for a person who is in love, even the poorest person in the world will find a way to buy a present to his gf. It may not be a material thing, even just a card or roses they will. And if he is upset of you giving hima present then he has a serious problem , he's not just a jerk! Didn't you know that that is one of the men weakness, if you want them to fall in love with you more surprise them with small presents or even a card. He's not normal bf and better if you will move away and set yourself free from all this problems later on. I think he is better with his cat only. Sorry but that's how i see it.
2007-02-15 19:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like that i don't expect people to give me gifts.You know giving gifts is actually a sign that you patronize that person.Maybe he thinks that by giving him gifts your trying to buy him.maybe the next time you should make something instead of buying it ready made.Like you know you could bake him something,or make a card.
Or Else you could give him something cute but useless,for example my Friend ones gave her Bf a potty stool.he probably never gives you gifts cause he's just not used to materializing love, you know give it form.its not cause he loves you any less.or probably its cause he doesn't want to waste his own pops money.but life is not about giving gifts and valentines day.its the little things that you do everyday,that further solidifies your love.Like you putting in chits of paper saying you love your BF when he doesn't expect it.There is no fun in doing things that are expected out of you.Its surprise that thrill.
2007-02-15 19:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by shruti v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf did not buy you anything or give you anything romantic on v-day. A romantic dinner, something-then he is not in love with you. You MUST be strong, have courage, swallow your heartbreak, and tell him it is OVER.
I promise you.
If he were in love, he'd be bringing flowers, diamonds, whatever. If he's broke, picks flowers from a neighbor's yard. Nothing romantic means he doesn't love you and to stay with him will make it worse. Trust me. This happened to me once. Sadly. I tried to communicate about it. He said he did love me, he was my boyfriend, all was cool for a while, then two months later, I caught him asking some other girl out on myspace.
And I broke up with him, and he kept calling, saying he couldn't lose me. Then I took him back and suddenly, he stopped calling.
Honey, it hurts, but it will hurt worse if you let it drag out. YOU be the one to end it. Then, swallow your sorrow and be on a date with the next handsome guy you meet. Once I finally let this man go, about six months later, I met Mr. Right. I was so glad I let the loser go!!
Go and buy the book The Rules. It will help you tremendously.
2007-02-15 19:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Instant Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are all questions that YOU need to be adult about, and ASK HIM! maybe gifts are against his religion? maybe he DOESN'T care about his relationship with you....or maybe just maybe, he is a cheapskate!!!! you'll never know unless you sit him down, and have a heart to heart talk with him. make sure that you explain to him BEFORE your talk that you are NOT trying to stir up crap or make him uncomfortable. just let him know that you want to settle this like adults, and have a reasonable conversation. if you come at him from a curiosity standpoint, rather than a "im angry at you" standpoint, he is more likely to respond in a positive and productive way. if you keep your tone light, and just curious, and he STILL gets nasty and loses his temper then DROP HIM LIKE A BAD HABIT!!!! i always say, that if you cant have a normal, reasonable conversation with someone, without them flying off the handle, then that person has serious issues, you need to let them go, so they can find someone ELSE who is willing to take it, but that person SHOULD NOT have to be YOU!
2007-02-15 19:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think a card and a rose will cost him a lot. And valentines is a love day to show any love ones that how you appreciated one another. Doesn't have to be an expensive gift...and yours...who you called b/f didn't even got you ...anything...EVENTHOUGH HE KNOWS YOU LIKE GIFTS? Maybe you should re considerate if he is considered you are his loves one? If you know what i mean?
2007-02-15 19:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, quit settling and find a man that deserves you and will love your gifts and return the favor. You are a person and you deserve to feel loved in some way. My hubby may not do everything to make me feel loved but he tries at least. Why feel so cheated when there are so many men who want to love you?
2007-02-15 19:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just answered ur own question - My bf can be a jerk big time..! :-)
But i see more serious questions for you there.. try answering those too.. like why is this jerk still with you if you and the cat mean the same to him?
2007-02-15 19:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to show his love in a deffirent way..don't you think so?
2007-02-15 19:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋