she always hv complaints and prob with me.she says whenever i need you,you are not with me.I'm working now & its really difficult to talk her daily for 5 to 6 hrs.thing is that for small to small prob she cry for hours.coz of scary dreams she cant sleep in nights(actually 3 months before she was traveling in train and from train window, she saw some ppl are stabing a girl. from thr onward she hv scary dreams) she cry whole night and i'm trying my best but she is not able to forget all that incident and her family doent know abt all this matter.now situation is like her parents also scold her she wake up very late and behave weird at home too.now she think no one like her.now her brother n sis also scold her.she has completely changed.she forgot to smile i never seen her smiling frm past 3 months :(i want to make her happy but i fail she blame me u r not with me.i'm also sleepless i hardly sleep 4 hrs and she says ehsaan mat karo mujh par.ehsaan ka naam mila!i want 2 wit her but i how?
2007-02-15 18:56:15 · 12 answers · asked by singleman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably she may require a councelling, take her to a psychiatrist, i think one or two sitting will relieve her depression.
2007-02-15 19:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by ARNOLD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. She needs support. you need to get her to conselling or a psych FAST!
This may have triggered a memory from her past of something that was doen to her and someone she knew and she blocked it out. After seeing this again she may be reliving that memory plus the memory of the recent incidence.
She is depressed. Crying so frequently is not normal. She really needs help. Her family scolding her doesnt lighten the situation either. And you leaving her may push her to extremes.
Definately seek professional help. Try to do little things that you know she loves or things from her childhood she always mentions. This might take her to a 'happier place' and you may see her smile. But you have to be strong, for her as well as yourself.
Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you both.
2007-02-15 21:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Brooke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Ur girl has lot of things in mind and dont know what to do with it. There is only one solution for it. Make her busy(ask her to join some creative class) in positive atmosphere. In time she Will forget she was ever like how she is now. If serious problem contact psychiatrist.
There might be some strong reason for her change. If u feel there is try and find. Guess u know what to do later if u find the problem.
2007-02-15 19:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by vasundhara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u shld at least once find some time to get her out of home. at least on day and keep her happy as u can. make the unforgettable for her. just try some idiot but cool moves and make her feel secure. u have to give atleast one day to her. make her feel most luckiest gal in world. behave like u r a wall between her and all ill factors and sorrows. when she's is with u just make her cry for once and then make her laugh as much she can. do all by wht she laughs. do each and every funny stuff for just one hour. one good cry and then one best laughter and i promise u she will forget all bad time.
wish u best of luck if u can do this.
gaurav
2007-02-15 20:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by i_love_humans 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Helpless ?? I dont think so ? Love is not about talking like puk puk puk. It brings responsibilities ? Where are yours?
Dont think of excuses like job and others. She's ur responsibility support her emotionaly, write or tell her jokes to make her happy, tell her encouraging things.
Seems to be a very sensitive girl, you need to be even more compassionate towards her.
If she's saying "Ehsaan etc. don't think she doesn't recognize your comfort but it means she expects more care from you". Because she isn't getting it from elsewhere.
Support her patiently my Bro
2007-02-15 23:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's not taking her problem on you but she dosen't trust anyone else but you and thats why she tells you all her problems....and thats a good thing because it means that she trusts you and has her faith in you and knowes that you'll be there for her and listen to all of her problems and comfort her and that you would try your best to get her out of it;
and come on if someone doesnt share thier problems or their thoughts and feelings with someones whom they love then who are they spouse to share it with????
all i can say is whats happening to her might be normal after seeing what she saw and i mean the same thing might have happend to me if i saw what she saw!!!
but stay by her side no matter how hard it gets but by her wanting you by her side it means that she likes your company and also you make her safe and eventually she will come out of all this to her normall life again all it needs is your love to her and a bit of time.
2007-02-15 19:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She really need help and you should now think about how you are going to help her. I think she needs a psychatrist. You don't have to think about your self but her problem seems serious and take her where she could be helped soon.
Good Luck!!
2007-02-15 21:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her to mediate.
Before going to bed at night say RAM Ram for three mints,and subsequently increase it to five mi nuts.U will definitely see the results within a week.
2007-02-15 19:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by gurdeep s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes taking out her problem out on you. she needs professional help as soon as possible
2007-02-15 19:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by caroline s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any inten tion of leading a peace ful life, get another girlfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-15 19:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by God sent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋