I am dealing with things ok right now. But it is doesn't seem to get any easier. He has been gone since the 8th of October. He has 415 more days to go. We have 3 kids. They have good and bad days. They just want their daddy to come home. I do too. It seems like every time I talk to him on the phone, I end up crying. I don't want him to worry about us. I try not to watch the news to much. I am a stay at home mom. I try to get out of the house at least once a day. I have pets to help keep me busy. What are some other things I can do to help me keep my mind off this?
2007-02-15 18:55:25 · 7 answers · asked by Dr. Sweets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well thanks for the answers so far. It is kinda hard for me to get around. I live in a very small town. Just to give you an example I have to drive 30 minutes just to go to walmart. The Family Support Group that is connected with my husband is over and hour away. He got deployed with another unit, they needed 2 more ppl. So he was one of them. Right now our home unit doesn't have a support group. I have called and called to see if they will get one going. It will be alot easier for me to get to the one here in town. But they never can give me a straight answer. I hate that.
2007-02-16 06:00:00 · update #1
you can talk to me if u want i am in the same boat as u hubby in military in Iraq gone since June (national guard 18 month deployment) take u crafts organzing exercise get in shape ...get a part time job or go to school if someone can watch kids have movie night fun nights with kids...its okay hun it will get better trust me..i am right with u and i know how u feel...try to just take it one day at a time..good don't watch the news i don't either i just read gossip magazines...pick ur self up dust ur self off it will okay ur hubby will be okay and he will be home before u know it
hugs!
2007-02-15 19:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw no wonder your so lonely and holding the household together and the kids . You need a litte time for yourself to rejuvinate even if it's just dinner out with a few girl friends , find a baby sitter and get out for a bit if you can . If that isn't possible after the kids are in bed grab a nice cold wine cooler and a good comedy and just relax and have a few laughs by yourself. I'm former military and know well how loneliness can dampen ones spirits. When ever you can pamper yourself do it and it will help your outlook and keep your spirits up as an example for the children . Good luck ! Bless you and your family , we're all very proud of your husband but you also because your the backbone of the family , hope you find some cheer soon !
2007-02-15 19:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADDED: See if the FRG has anything online. Ours has a yahoo group that lets out of town wives be involved and I know of a couple of others that do as well.
If you can't find anything specifically for your DH's command you might try searching yahoo for any military wives in your area or your DH's specialty. For example, I used to belong to a yahoo group of Bangor, WA wives from all the Navy commands up there. And I've been on the Submarine wives club which is Sub wives from all over the US.
Even that bit of connection can help.
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Get involved with other spouses. FRG's (family readiness groups) can really help. You'll meet wives who are going through what you are on the exact same schedule. These are people you can share ideas and events with and even just vent to on occasion. The groups always welcome helping hands to make events happen so pitch in and plan something with them. Maybe something for the kids.
The social side of the FRG's is important but so is the information you can get through other military wives. Like it's normal to have good and bad days. It's normal to cry when you get a call. You're not a bad mom or even a weak one to have that happen. Sometimes just knowing that the emotional roller coaster you're on is normal can help.
Here's hoping he stays safe and that you and the kids stay strong to see him home!
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In Honor of the Military Wife
Tween fixing dinner and homework today
The pipes burst in a waterfall spray
My kids school called, she was in trouble
'Get here tomorrow on the double'
My son fell and hit his head
To top it off the goldfish is dead
The stair lights popped and went to black
I stepped on a toy and threw out my back
The dryer broke, the car is squeaking
(I just KNOW that oil is leaking)
My daughter sobs" I miss my dad!"
Comforting her makes my 2 year old mad
He whips a car at my ear
(For THAT a small pop on the rear!!)
They eat, I bathe em, I put em to bed
"I need water" they both said
A drink, the potty, tucked back in
This, of course, once AGAIN
My back is sore, in need of a rub
I grab a towel and head for the tub
There, with Calgon, a book, and some wine
I think to myself. “Things will be fine"
But when hubby returns to relaxation
I'M leavin I'll NEED the vacation!!
2007-02-16 03:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of organizations that help send care packages and other things to our armed forces. Get involved in doing something positive for our service people. You will meet other people who have loved ones over there and they can be a support group for you.
2007-02-15 20:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to keep your mind off the worrying or wanting your husband home? worrying of course isnt good for you or your body. to help you cope with him being away from home and helping your children, try inviting God into your life. You will soon find out that you worries will go away because having security from what God is doing which is protecting your husband, brings inner peace. plus your children can learn to pray for their daddy, God hears the prayers of children because they have more faith then most adults. BELIEVE IN THE LORD----HE SAYS...ALL THOSE WHO ARE WEARY COME TO ME AND I WILL GIVE THEM MY YOKE FOR IT IS LIGHT. meaning....life will be a lot easier and you will have peace, who knows God could bring your husband home early....-
2007-02-15 19:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by JANE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live near an airport, get out there and welcome back the returning service men and women. It is something to do that is appreciated and makes you feel good. The day WILL come when you're there welcoming HIM home. I appreciate the sacrifices that not only the military do, but there families back home as well. Thank you and GOD BLESS your family.
2007-02-15 19:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby...It helps me out tons...You can take classes if you dont know what you want to do, they have them in crafty stores, like Micheals and Joanns...You could volunteer some where, or join a womens group...
2007-02-15 19:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋